Standards

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I’ve noticed that so many women remain single because they have a “TYPE” of man they will only consider. There is nothing wrong with having standards when it comes to a man. However; try to make those standards less physical.

I’ll have to be honest, my husband was not what I considered my type.
I wanted a man that was 6 5″, Rock solid body, darn near wealthy, dark chocolate just to name some…my LUST was a long list. Those “types” treated me as if I meant nothing to them…I was a piece of meat.

They dogged me OUT!!! Every woman wanted them, he knew it and did not fear the LORD.

This is not the case with all men fitting the physical description. But the men I ran across were the worse ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ™„

I had to be more realistic and focus on how a man treated me. What they had to offer and how they looked was less important.

Nobody wants to marry a bum….I get that. We all want an attractive face to look at but I prefer a beautiful spirit over it all.

My husband is darling and very handsome which is a plus but wasn’t a must.

Sometimes you have to cultivate your man! Plant seeds and support him….we demand and expect things that are not important.

Get back to the basics and build together, work out together and make your dreams a reality together!

Marriage

There are plenty of folks that love the concept of marriage….

Those who are determined to never get married for various reasons understand that marriage is a serious commitment.

If you marry the wrong person your life will be a living hell. Get married for all the right reasons and love being one of those….not ๐Ÿ’ธ๐Ÿ’ต๐Ÿ’ฐmoney…or because you have hot passionate sex.

Marry your best friend and if you’re not best friends work on cultivating a friendship first.

I strongly believe the type of love that allows you to remain happily married is love that comes after friendship.

Stop Settling…

There are so many men/women who settle because they have no idea how they really should be treated.

I am not saying you have to be married in order to experience true love-but there is a level of respect you will receive everyday that matters the most.

You will never have to wait for your call to be answered- and if your call goes unanswered you will get a call back in no time. You won’t have to wait hours!

Your needs will be anticipated and you’ll never feel like #2!!

You will never argue because you work at not making each other upset. It’s amazing!!! We put more effort in keeping a job than our relationships.

When other women/men call your phone about your partner you have really placed yourself in a bad situation.

Why should you have to compete? Then you hate and call others fake when they want the whole world to know that all that bullshyt you are going through is unnecessary.
Prepare yourself for a lifetime of misery…you have to love yourself first.

After a Bad Relationship

A bad relationship can make you feel like your whole world has come to an end when you have given this “person” your heart.

The most important thing that I will share with you is to NEVER beat yourself up. Calling yourself stupid and telling yourself a million times that you wish you had never met her/him will only make the healing process longer.

Hate and disappointment is a sure fire way to make you into a bitter scorned reject.
When you experience a set back and someone tries to destroy you don’t think about the evil that has been done to you.
Focus on the purpose. Yes, focus on the reason why this disaster of a relationship happened and what role you played. There is always a reason why situations happen nothing just happens. Life altering changes are exactly that…pray, cry, scream do whatever just open your eyes and your heart to start the healing process.

Always remember that you can’t play the blame game. It takes two to tangle even if you are allowing the person to walk all over you…Key word”allow”.

Do What’s Best for You…

Do what’s best for you. Never let anyone determine what you should do- especially if it will tarnish your image or prevent you from reaching your destiny.

Just say “no” and don’t expect them to understand.
It’s not being selfish it’s looking out for #1
You must take care of yourself before you can help anyone else!

Never remain in an unfulfilled relationship because you are afraid of breaking someone’s heart. Your happiness is far more important.

Misery Loves Company!

I love life โ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธyou have to love yourself- this protects you from evil people who want to rip you apart.

I can’t stand negative jealous hateful people. I love positive vibes and to be surrounded by loving secure people who don’t judge and see my heart.

There is always a little truth in every joke so why don’t you just STFU!

Experiencing hatred since childhood from people!!

People can be so mean and jealous.

Folks have taken their life over being treated this way. I am truly blessed that I love myself and know the works of the devil.

So many can not stand to see you happy. They pride themselves on trying to alienate you. What they don’t realize is that I am NOT thinking about them. You don’t know a darn thing about me but you don’t like me?

That’s hysterical and very sad. Get a life.

You don’t matter, never did and never will so leave me alone! Don’t talk to me nor look in my direction.

You are not important in my life. I have enough people in my life that love me to the moon and back๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพโ™ฅ๏ธ

False Sisterhood

I’ve known this particular female for over 20 years and loved her like a sister.

Well, she sent me an invitation to her wedding, and it arrived two weeks after her wedding.
Ghetto mailman lost it post date was 30 days prior to wedding date on invite.

I kept calling and texted her to get the location and she NEVER responded.
Ok, over that now…I guess being a new bride to be she was busy.

It really hurt me to miss her wedding.

Several years later we connected on Facebook…I attempted to spend time with my sister like friend, so I thought- she was always busy or too sleepy to see me. I know, I should have taken the hint, but I refused to believe she was that fake and mean.

Then she told me, ” I can’t hang out with you, I can’t compete with you”
She hurt my heart since I loved her in spite of.

I don’t compete with anyone and why would she feel she had to compete with me? If only people would learn to love themselves better and that would totally eliminate insecurity.

I ran into her at the grocery store, and she acted like she saw a ghost…WOW!