Ruin My Day? Never!

I laugh in the face of adversity simply because in the beginning; I had no idea what was about to take place. My famous phrase, “I know where this is going…” Then the issue is addressed immediately.
This is why you must Listen and observe body language which leaves less room for assumptions.
Your response/actions should be tactful and diplomatic even if the other individual is completely uncivil. Rise above the occasion and shine as being the more mature intelligent adult.

It’s not hard to figure out people they fit into two categories those are: Satisfied with their LIFE or Dissatisfied with their LIFE.

People will treat others either good or bad depending on their level of happiness. Go figure!
This is exactly why you should never let a human being dictate your mood based on their misery.

Easier said than done? Not hardly, when you get tired of getting upset over some obviously chemically imbalanced baboon it becomes easy as pie to stay above adversity.
There is simply no easy way to avoid confrontations but how you react to these bouts in life is what sets you apart from the rest.

Remember it’s not always what you say it’s how you say it…

Keep smiling and never let anyone steal your joy!

Dating & Money!

Women who expect a man to take care of them 100% is complete nonsense while you sit on your arse doing nothing. Clean up the house, cook do something!
If you do expect a man to support you 100% do not be upset if a man requires the same.
Being lazy and greedy has nothing to do with whether you are a female or male.
Nobody that has good sense wants to be involved with a broke, lazy, greedy bum who constantly has their hands out in the palm up position.
It does not have to be 50/50 but don’t expect the man to do everything alone just because you spread your wings.
80/20 works for me!
If a man CHOOSES to be your sole provider by all means allow him! Just treat the man out to dinner and OFFER to help sometimes.


What if you died tomorrow? What would people say about you?
Do you feel you have accomplished enough in life?
Have you wasted your life chasing after things that have no significance?
Are you afraid of being alone when you came into this world alone (minus twins)
But you will leave alone unless fate decides otherwise.
There comes a time in everyone’s life when we need to really think about how far we have come and where we are headed.
Take your heart with you and guard it with care but don’t forget to bring your brains with you.
Love yourself and allow others to love you.
Life will present hurdles so JUMP! You may fall but you MUST get back up!
No matter how small your dreams are or goals you must make progress baby steps are fine.
Don’t become stagnated while on your journey keep it moving! You may be alive but you are really dead on the inside if you let your life waste away. In order to be happy you have to learn to depend on yourself!

The Man I Will Fall In Love With…

Sex in a relationship is indeed important. However, sex alone should not be the deciding factor on whether you fall in love with someone. Lust should never be confused with LOVE.

A man that will not verbally or phycically abuse me is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man that never makes excuses but finds resolutions is a man I will fall in love with.
A man that takes care of his kids not just financially but who gives them the love they need to grow is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man who has character and feels no need to lie to me is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man who is not afraid to commit, communicates, loyal,God-Fearing, Hardworking, Ambitious, Humorous and is sensitive to my needs is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man who is not afraid to apologize when he his wrong is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man who will rub my feet when I tell him that they hurt is a man that I will fall in love with without asking him to.
A man that loves his mother and respects all women no matter where they are from or what they have done is a man I will fall in love with.
A man who will love my children as much as they love me is a man I will fall in love with.
A man that I can tell him just about everything and will never judge me is a man that I will fall in love with.

I would be just as worthy as he is to me no double standrds allowed.
Everything else will fall into place…

Let Go!


Letting go of the past isn’t an easy task but unless you let go your life will remain at a standstill.
There will be opportunities and true love that you will miss out on because you are still living in the past.
Start off fresh without fear of history repeating itself.
The first few blows hurt may even knock you down just get up!
You must learn how to cope and bounce back no matter the circumstance.
Life will have highs and lows there’s no way around disappointment and hurt.
However, there are ways to survive even the most heart wrenching events that may occur in your life.
You have to believe that time heals all pain that may not necessarily disappear but will subside if you allow it to happen.
I have witnessed the weakest person overcome hell and the strongest person break like a twig only because they made a decision to fight for their life while the other simply gave up.
Whatever you do learn from your mistakes move on and never repeat those same mistakes.
Life is precious and we all have our moments but we can’t stay there. Seek out positive things even when your life seems to be tumbling down before your eyes. Stop wasting time doing things that don’t make you happy or being with someone that makes you miserable. Time is the most precious commodity we have that cannot be restored

Sex Can Wait

As you get older you grow tired of the games guys play just to get in your pants. Dating can be scary besides who wants to kiss someone with herpes?
You just want someone that is honest and will wait for you no matter how long it takes (within reason of course!) and not rush you into sex. Waiting for STD Panel and HIV results isn’t a bad idea and not intrusive when you are putting your clean bill of health at risk.
I wish it were as simple as wearing a condom but it’s not.
If a person really adores you they would never bring up sex in conversations because they are really that into you!
Don’t get me wrong they want to jump your bones and that’s natural but it’s not a priority like it is to MOST. Women want to give themselves but when they feel the time is right.
We may even participate in the sexual conversation etc. while in the back of our minds we are thinking it’s not even two weeks and this dude is talking about having sex with me.
Maybe when they start selling canned hello kitty on the shelves they will calm down because its really unbecoming to appear as being THIRSTY!
I will admit having sex too early in the game has resulted in major disappointment afterwards. It’s like the blinders are off and you can finally see the real person not the person they pretended to be in order to conquer you.
I just really believe no matter how Horney or attracted you are to a person holding out for a while is best in the end.
Sex clouds your ability to make rational decisions especially when the sex is awesome!
Find out if you actually like the person at the very least minus your over active hormones.
Time will not reveal all but waiting will give you a pretty good idea of what you are dealing with.
You simply need more than sex to build a foundation that will lead to a beautiful long lasting relationship.
Things won’t always be perfect but knowing you are friends will allow you to resolve just about any issue.
It’s just so risky in many ways that you need to protect yourself in all areas.

Love 4 Rent

I love you is so easy to say but you know it’s true love when you are shown through actions.
A thousand I love you’s mean nothing when you can look into a persons eyes and feel the love when they hold your hand.
When they show a genuine concern about you and will do whatever it takes to make you happy. A person that respects love and your time will make you their wife and it won’t take several years.
Time is life’s most valuable commodity and your heart isn’t a playground.
Love has no excuses with one foot in the door and the other in position to walk out the door. Love does not have you pretending to be the wife of a man who will never marry you.
Never be despearate to be marrried just know deep in your heart that its the right thing to do or maybe you shouldn’t be with that person.
I just figure that if you waste your time with a person who does not want to be your one and only you could be missing out on your future husband waiting out there for you.
Kinda like baking a cake but the oven doesn’t work.

Master of Lies

I will never be able to accept nor understand why people take on the reputation of being a big fat liar.
They have become so accustomed to telling lies they start to believe the untruths that drip from their mouths.

They have become the master of lies having the ability to steal your heart to only reek havoc in your happy life.

The lies start off small then become a nuisance because your intuitive spark tells you “that’s a freaking lie!” But instead you nod your head in an agreeable manner ignoring all the signs.

Every word spoken is in slow motion while you pick apart every story ever told until you finish the puzzle of lies.

What now? Do you call them out?
They are saying all the things you want to hear but if they are all lies they are using your mind to play checkers.

The entire time you were playing the game of truth or dare rolling dice with every conversation.

As a teenager they thought it was amusing to experience the reaction and facial expressions from the elaborate lies they told innocent victims.

As adults they are now “The Master of Lies”.

Changes in You.

People tend to ask themselves why individuals change towards them or why they are suddenly treated differently.

The answer to your question is in the mirror you stand in front of every morning hardly making eye contact with the reflection to the windows to your soul that scream out you have changed!

When you realize you are repeating the same behavior/actions that lead you to the same road that results in pain time to change.

Many of our issues start within we just need to take responsibility for the role we play.

However, that change could be good allowing those who meant you no good to retreat.

That’s the whole idea …you must know when that change in you is for the best just open your eyes so you can see the big picture.