Not everyone deserves your love…

You know when you meet someone and after the first couple of dates if they are someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Sounds crazy but its true unless you are more focused on being a man or woman of the world and love doesn’t matter to you.

It is very possible to fall in love with someone within an hour of meeting them.
More realistic to say it takes months or years for love to de…velop but if your heart feels it you can’t deny it no matter how hard you try to fight it.

Your spirit longs to be with them and you are compatible in every way becoming one mentally and sexually.

You make each other laugh and when you touch it’s electrifying and they become a force in your life that you need like the air you breathe. This is dangerous if the other person doesn’t feel the same about you!

Never settle when you know you are a diamond.
Even if it hurts sometimes you have to let go to save yourself the intense pain you will experience if you prolong the inevitable.

Your heart and your emotions (lust) can take control of your ability to make a rational decision that can lead to a road of emotional destruction.

Save yourself the agony and pain for something that is temporary for pain that is long term. The sooner you remove yourself from a going to nowhere situation the faster your heart will heal.

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ASSUMPTIONS…

It’s difficult to not assume but the best way to find the answer to your question is to simply ask.
If only they would tell the truth but sometimes deep down we really don’t want to hear the truth.

We believe that our assumptions hold more truths than the answer we will receive from asking for the real truth. The truth can sting and hurt but you have to embrace it…

Our imgainations get carried away and we bring those thoughts to LIFE.
Most people will lie to protect your feelings but what they fail to understand is that once the truth is revealed involuntarily you will crush that person’s spirit which is far worse than hurt feelings.

Lying to someone when they trust, care, love or are developing feelings for you is the ultimate betrayal when they let you into their life and open their heart.

Easier said than done but it is so much better to just tell the truth! That way you can move on with your life and allow the other person to be with someone that really does care about them.
If you must lie to keep someone around that’s just not right.

Love Should Not Hurt…

If a relationship is painful and you have to constantly struggle with keeping it alive then you are wasting not only your time but theirs as well.

I never understood why people feel like they have to cry, fight, scream and hurt in order to have a meaningful relationship. I often hear people say, “We have a history” ok, that’s great but how good is that history?

If they don’t hit you, call you dreadful names or act like a jealous manic they don’t care?

Far from the truth, it’s the exact opposite. People who love you will set you free because they realize you are not property and will respect your decision to end the unhealthy relationship.

It is impossible to not have disagreements and become angry with your partner. However, the way you resolve your issues is when the real test comes into play. Love shouldn’t hurt and it surly should not drain your spirit.

Love is holding your best friend’s hand waking up every morning to warm smiles thinking of how you can make each other happier. Love is a 50/50 spilt and if you aren’t there in the beginning work towards it. You need someone that will at the minimum meet you half way. There should never be only person putting in all the work while building a relationship.

Love is respect, loyalty and admiration as well as humbling in a sense that it has become a rarity these days.

Love should be easy and sweet taking you to a place that is pure euphoria detaching you from reality so much that you have to pull each other back.

Love does not ask questions it just exists and blossoms each day with a foundation that no man can destroy.

What Makes You Pretty?

You are beautiful and smart with so many things that set you apart.
There will always be someone prettier or smarter than you are based on a person’s standards that don’t really matter.

What matters is if you think you are prettier or smarter than the next and you should NEVER compare yourself to others EVER!

You are unique; there is only one of you so refuse to be a copy!
People are mean and will call you ugly because they are shallow and rotten in the inside. Your spirit is what makes you beautiful…your strength, character and confidence makes you attractive.

Don’t allow society to dictate to your reflection what true beauty is…its how you feel about yourself and how you treat others is what makes you pretty.

You Are Not Worthless!

Never be an option in someone’s life. If a person does not appreciate you they don’t need you nor do they deserve you. One day, and it may be many years from now they will realize that they lost out on the best thing that EVER happened to them.

Know your worth. We should never allow anyone to use us but we do simply because we gain something as well.

When feelings get involved that’s when you have a problem. Know when to walk away especially if you know that there is no future you are just temporary. It’s not fun being part of a heavy rotation.

Show No Mercy, Get No Mercy!

Forgiving someone does not make you weak.

Forgiving shows you understand that human nature is flawed to the point that we cause anguish having no regrets at that moment or remorse. We all are guilty of hurting someone whether it was intentionally or not.

You may have cared that you hurt them and then again you felt like they deserved it. Honestly, not a soul alive deserves to be hurt. Unless, you know the root of their troubles and what has shaped them into this awful cold-hearted human being you have no reasonable excuse to hurt anyone emotionally or to retaliate against them.

“Hurt people hurt other people”, strangely they find some sort of pleasure seeing others miserable.

Knowing this about our flawed nature will help you better understand why it is so very important to forgive. God knows, from my personal experiences how hard it is to forgive when you would rather bash their head in!!!

Oh no, that is not healthy for not only them but for the spiritual being that lives inside of you. You are a bright light shining ever so bright but every time you HATE or HURT another human being that light inside of you becomes dimmer and is finally replaced with darkness.

Forgiving does not mean you have to continue to endure a person’s abuse there comes a time you must forgive them and move on to the next chapter in your life.

The most important aspect of forgiveness is having the ability to let go! Holding on to things that someone has done to you in your past will keep you from enjoying the wonderful future you have right in front of you.

Open your eyes and let your heart heal so that you can receive all the blessings that are waiting for you.

Forgiving sets you free! Forgiving does not allow others to have power over you!

So…You Say You’re Not Selfish?

We never want to admit it but we all are selfish in many ways. Whenever someone shouts “YOU ARE SELFISH” the first thing we say is “No, I am not look at all that I have done for you?” Really, you keeping a tally on what you have done?

I look at being selfish as our survival instinct kicking in. Naturally, there are some who are over the top with squeezing their pennies until they scream or just down right never wanting to give love but always willing to receive love.

Being selfish isn’t always a bad trait when you have so many people always wanting to take but never giving. If you allow people to continually take what will you have left?

You may be thinking what are they taking? When people take from you it isn’t necessarily material things such has money it can be your self-respect, pride (sin), your dignity or just your overall self-confidence of being who you are.

If you allow it, people will suck you dry! It is your responsibility to determine how much you will allow someone to use you and know when to say enough is enough.

Someone has to start out showing that they are willing to be used in the beginning for whatever personal gain they are expecting to receive whether it is a blessing or for sexual gratification.

People do things for the most part because they are “expecting” something in return; whether it’s a few dollars in their pocket or just to put a smile on someone’s face.

We all are selfish no matter the intensity of our selfishness it’s just a part of who we are.