The Open Toed Shoe Pledge

The Open Toed Shoe Pledge
Place your right hand over your heart and repeat after me:

As a member of the Cute Girl Sisterhood, I pledge to follow the Rules
when I wear sandals and other open-toe shoes:

I promise to always wear sandals that fit. My toes will not hang over and touch the ground, nor will my heels spill over the backs. And the
sides and tops of my feet will not protrude out between the straps.

I will go polish-free or vow to keep the polish fresh, intact and chip-free. I will not cheat and just touch up my big toe. I will sand down any mounds of skin before they turn hard and yellow.

I will shave the hairs off my big toe.

I won’t wear pantyhose even if my misinformed girlfriend, coworker,
mother, sister tells me the toe seam really will stay under my toes if I tuck it there.

If a strap breaks, I won’t duct-tape, pin, glue or tuck it back into place hoping it will stay put. I will get my shoe fixed or toss it.

I will not live in corn denial; rather I will lean on my good friend Dr. Scholl’s if my feet need him.

I will resist the urge to buy jelly shoes at Payless for the low, low price of $4.99 even if my feet are small enough to fit into the kids’ sizes This is out of concern for my safety, and the safety of others. No one can walk properly when standing in a pool of sweat and I would hate to take someone down with me as I fall and break my ankle.

I will take my toe ring off toward the end of the day if my toes swell
and begin to look like Vienna sausages. If I have been privy to the magic that is Foot Soup; I will share that knowledge and experience with the non-initiated.

I will be brutally honest with my girlfriend / sister / coworker when
she asks me if her feet are too ugly to wear sandals. Someone has to tell her that her toes are as long as my fingers and no sandal makes creepy feet look good.

I will promise if I wear flip flops that I will ensure that they actually flip and flop, making the correct noise while walking and I will swear NOT to slide or drag my feet while wearing them.

I will promise to go my local beauty school at least once per season and have a real pedicure (they are about $20 and worth EVERY penny).

I will promise to throw away any white/off-white sandals that show signs of wear…nothing is tackier than dirty white sandals.

Mean 4 No Reason

The young lady that hands out the express newspaper at the metro has such a pleasant smile.
Taking a few more seconds to look at her while saying good morning because I sensed something.
I noticed her eyes looked sad behind the smile.
I see this woman every morning and for some reason something was tugging at my spirit!
As if I don’t have my own personal battles…Taking a moment more to look at her while saying good morning; I asked her, “are these people mean to you that come through the metro?
She replied “yes, but not all”
My heart sunk as I took a deep breath.
I replied, “don’t you worry about them ok?, have a nice day”
She thanked me as I noticed that sadness in her eyes disappear.
People can be so mean for no reason and it hurts.
They ignore her like she doesn’t exist, push the paper away or give her dirty looks.
What’s wrong with saying, good morning and/or no thank you?
They look down on her because of her job.
They look down on her because of her race.
But she’s a human being first!!
Shallow people get on my nerves.
We have to stop being hateful towards each other.
We have to stop trying to make others feel inferior because we think we are so perfect based on what society dictates.

Why should I care what others think about me?

I think it’s far better to tell a person about the good things you see in them before you start telling them the bad things you see. I’ve had people tell me several times that I have a “strong” personality which means no one is allowed to use me as a floor mat.

Besides, unless you have managed to not be flawed how about you just shut up?
As if we don’t already know about our personality flaws and you better believe we notice yours as well. You have to respect a person’s differences even if you aren’t too fond of those inconsistencies.

I find it annoying when someone tries to tell me how messed up I am when their life is a complete mess. You can’t tell me anything about my relationship if you NEVER had a healthy one that is standing strong as we speak.

You can’t tell me how to stay married if you are working on your second divorce!
I seek counsel from Jesus and my parents whom I know love me unconditionally.

Unless I come to you for your advice please don’t offer. However, if you notice I am on a path of destruction and you love me enough to tell me that’s a beautiful thing.

Handling the truth has never been an issue for me sugar coating things just makes me nauseated.
Consequently, please understand that your biased opinion about me never mattered and never will only the TRUTH is all that I will consider.

That’s exactly why I am happy with who I am today and love myself without a doubt.
I know who I am and what I am capable of. I also know when someone is trying to hurt with words verses showing me tough love.

Don’t look at me and assume you know what type of person I am based on my appearance.

Don’t get haughty with me and don’t expect me to respond with equal intensity then call me a b*tch.

I actually like being me. Therefore, you have two choices…take me as I am or stay out of my space….comprendo?

Food 4 Thought

Many times we don’t want to hear the truth and shut down never giving the other person a chance to speak.
We yell, scream and sometimes shout obscenities!
Most of the time people don’t have a clue about you making assumptions but that one person you decide to not hear out is telling you the truth.
Just listen and process what is being said even if you feel it’s nonsense in the beginning.
Sometimes we behave in an unfavorable manner never actually realizing it until its brought to our attention.
Don’t end up being one of those people who gets introduced by saying “that’s so and so that’s just how he/she is don’t pay so and so any mind, ignore them”
This means you have been a rude jackass and its accepted amongst your peers and family!
Then you meet me and I say, “I don’t give a damn how so and so is they will not speak to me or treat me with disrespect”.
We are work in progress. Constructive criticism is a good thing for everyone.
The most important thing is knowing when someone is being cruel or really care enough to call you out in private of course.
The truth may appear to be cruel but we all know the truth stings a bit at times so swallow and digest and expel all that you feel is realistically irrelevant or holds no validity.
Be honest with yourself, know who you are and what you are capable of.