Missed Opportunity

A missed opportunity is exactly that nothing more or less. When you book a flight and you miss it you can never catch that flight again. You can receive a credit or reschedule the flight you missed but you will NEVER be able to catch that plan leaving that airport because it has taken flight.

Can you radio the captain and request him to turn around to come back and allow you to board the plane? I highly doubt it unless you are the POPE or the President. Life is the exact same way…you miss out on an opportunity more than likely it will never come again.

You can’t take a rain check on so many things in life but for some reason we want to believe that the world will stop for us until we are “ready”.

Don’t Waste My Time…Thank you!

Why do most people take life for granted? Why do we allow others to hurt us and waste our time?
We get comfortable and expect things to manifest; when in fact it takes action not wishing and hoping.
If you are at a standstill long enough eventually mental dust will accumulate so you have to dust yourself off and keep it moving. Never put your life on hold for someone to “decide” that they want to be with you with no projected time frame to bounce.
Because life has a deadline you must give deadlines to yourself to achieve goals or make lifestyle changes. There is nothing wrong with telling someone that they have 60-days to get their act together or you are going to throw them out like Monday morning trash.
Anyone that feels like they have the right to waste your time playing basketball with your heart has no respect for you or your feelings.
Why can’t most people realize that life is precious and not met to gamble away as if you have 9 lives?
For some strange reason folks have in their minds that they will live FOREVER! Well, I am here to inform you that we all will expire one day that’s a FACT.
Is it morbid to talk about death? Death is a part of life and REALITY…IDK…just seems if people actually grabbed the whole death thing maybe they would take life more seriously. Who knows but it’s really annoying when someone has no problem wasting my time and it’s disgusting when I allow them to waste my time.

1 Million Thoughts…

Today my mind was all over the place. It’s like my life flashed before me!

I have never had so many thoughts rush through my mind at once in my entire life. If I knew any better those thoughts would lead me to believe that I may die any day now.

Honestly, it feels like there is a race against time for me and there is no more time to waste to not  do whatever it is that will allow me to enjoy my life…there isn’t another moment to spare.

That’s exactly what scares me not knowing when my last days here on earth will come to an end…time wasted is not a good way for me to be fulfilled knowing that my life was in vain.

Is there anything wrong with taking responsibility for your own happiness; finally realizing that you can no longer sacrifice your happiness for the sake of others every waking hour?

My soul is drained; my eyes have shed enough tears now it’s time to enjoy me. Somehow it feels like I’ve lost myself and if I don’t take time for me, love myself more and live with no regrets; I surely will die.

I will be here physically but not mentally…


Mistakes? That’s Life!

Mistakes are totally fine to make unless it’s between life and death.
We simply cannot be afraid of making mistakes if it will prevent us from growing.

Mistakes are decisions turned inside out that could lead to bad results immediately but if you’re patient the good results will reveal itself later down the road. (Sometimes)

Whether your decision was a mistake or not be proud that you had the guts to decide on something!

Some mistake are irreparable so it’s critical to think about the pros and cons on whatever you decide.

Most importantly, never make a decision based on emotions use your brain not your heart. Don’t be cold hearted just keep a healthy balance.

It’s really tough to not make decisions when you are upset but you really need a cooling off period.

The last thing you want is to make a mistake based on the decision you made and it can never be reversed!


Five Years Still No Ring? WTF?

Ok, like seriously, how long do you expect a woman to wait around for you to marry her?
Five years is way too long but hey that’s just my opinion since I was dumb enough to do it.
As 2014 is fast approaching; I decided to end whatever it is we had for so long.
Most folks that I asked to give their opinion on this mess, said,”Why should it matter as long as you are happy”?

Well, that’s exactly it, I am not happy knowing that he got all this milk and cookies for FREE!

There are details that can’t be shared in a public forum however there were SEVERAL factors that assisted me with making this final decision.

In order for me to discuss the topics on my blog guess what? I had to go through it myself!!!!! Hated it…but hope that my life experiences will STOP someone else from making a HUGE mistake.

Is it dreadful to be in a long-term relationship if both parties aren’t considering marriage heck NO but it has to be mutual?

Dude! Don’t pull the “Will you marry me?” when I have one butt cheek out the door…that is just WRONG in all sorts of ways.

Being married for 10 years previously sort of makes me not in a rush to run towards the Alter but if I am playing house for 5 years hmmm? IDK just does not seem right.

No, I will not change my mind nor my heart…my mind is made up. Being an old maid does not scare me…being alone does not scare me although; I am totally too hot for that. LOL

I will not date anyone that isn’t a potential husband considering I am 43 not 23…

Red Lipstick

True story:
A friend asked me to come hang out.

The only person that was familiar to me was the friend who invited me.
Meeting new people is totally fine with me it’s just when they aren’t friendly is what makes the process difficult.

As I walked in the room;
I felt eyeballs burning through my skin which prompted me to turn around.

Two of the seven were all up in my face.
That was cool; I smiled said hello introducing myself while one of the them gave me this dirty look.

That look gave me chills and the idea of how one person could ruin my night was upon me.

Honestly, I’ve been there before more than I care to count.
Usually, the outcome was horrendous because back then my maturity level was on zero.

As a result of those past experiences my approach when dealing with difficult people has a more positive outcome.
I either ignore them or kill them with kindness.

This person never said hello back totally ignored my greeting…
It gets worse…this person blurted out. “I don’t think black women should wear red lipstick, it makes them look like a whore.”
Laughter followed…little did they know; if they tried that 20 years ago; they both would have got punched in the face.

While the other person who sat next to this rude opinionated person had a smirk on their face, the eyes said it all. No matter how nice I was it would not have made a difference.

Ironically, I wore red lipstick that night and absolutely love red.
(Red looks great on me and the color does not compliment every woman)
Letting out an exasperated sigh,
I uttered, “Well, is that right?” And walked away.

My friend came over and asked was everything ok…I replied, “Of course!”, not wanting to cause a big fuss.
Sometimes it gets old trying to be the bigger person. But it’s best to ignore stupid people.

This is just one example of the many encounters I’ve had with women that I’ll never understand.

Insecurities and simply judging another woman that you never met in your life is a sickness of the mind.