Can I Have Your Number?

Posted on March 31, 2014 by The Game Changer

Telling a person who is on a mission to get in your pants that you are taken is like jumping in front of a bull with red on.

I am not judging anyone because my closet has more than enough skeletons but that’s over and done with. Patrice is a better person as a result of doing some rather unsavory things in my life.

Thank goodness my conscience is alive and well to eat away at my very own happiness even when thinking of doing someone wrong.

It appears that the majority have no respect for your relationship if you don’t…makes sense?

If you entertain advances whether you are a man or woman from another person and you know damn well that you have someone that loves you to pieces shows you have no respect for your relationship. (Run on sentence?)
I write exactly how I speak it’s a curse!

Why should anyone else care about whoever you are with especially if you never mention that you are involved?

Most thirsty folks could care less if you are involved with someone else they just want to be sexually satisfied. It’s all about getting their rocks off and nothing else matters.

Once you introduce outsiders into your relationship you are setting yourself up for DRAMA!

You might as well go into your relationship telling your partner that it’s an open relationship. They have two choices deal with it or leave.

But of course most of us are selfish and want a main squeeze and a side piece or two. Gee whiz! Oh well that’s life and it can get ugly at times.

Having a choice is better than being in the dark. Let folks know what they are dealing with so their heart is not totally given to you.

No matter the situation feelings develop even when we try to fight those emotions with all our might we fall. We fall hard too!

Now what?

Single for Life

Posted on March 30, 2014 by The Game Changer

What exactly makes a person decide they want to be single for life? I can think of lots of things but my reasons would be different from yours or maybe not?
It all boils down to being sick of being sick and tired of the same bulls*t over and over and overrrrr again! I swear some folks act like they have 9 lives even after wasting 8 of those lives.

I have found that you can tell someone that you are not happy and they will try to force you to be with them; it’s clearly insane. If someone tells me they are not happy and want to bounce; I will kindly show them where the door is with no attitude…thank you for not wasting any more of OUR time. It was somewhat nice while it lasted…have a nice life.
No matter what you say to yourself being alone is no fun; an unhealthy relationship is by far not the better option.
This really gets confusing sometimes for so many of us!

It seems that every relationship comes with its own set of issues that we choose to either deal with or run from. What I find that is hilarious is we end up dealing with same issues with a different person with a variance of severity. Then we must wonder if those problems are in fact manifesting within us and not the other person. Is it possible that we could be the problem? Indeed but not all the darn time…this is when a self-evaluation is needed.

My cousin and I were driving in her car yesterday after having dinner. She actually said something to me that at that particular time peaked my interest making total sense. Have you ever said to someone or to yourself “If this does not work,I am done”?

Well, my cousin told me that it’s ridiculous when all you need is time to get your mind right and allow your heart to heal. You never know if you will meet the love of your life when you least expect it. Don’t shut the possibilities out by throwing up a brick wall that reads “DO NOT ENTER”.
We let so many ships sail by because we are hurt or allowed someone to waste our time that was never meant for us to be with in the first place. Please stop asking, “How do I know if they are the right person?” When you know the very moment you meet them unless you are detached from reality. Wake up, look and listen…observation is critical. Listen to half of what is being verbally communicated and all of what is VISABLE.

Sometimes I wonder if being single something that was predestined for me or whether meeting someone that possess 90% of my character traits and defects (LOL) would make a huge difference.
If I can meet someone that is not the opposite of me that may work! We would understand each other therefore knowing what the next move would be if that makes any sense at all.
We all are on a quest to find LOVE…the type of love that last forever and doesn’t HURT.

Straight from My Heart, Patrice

How Can You Ever Trust Again?

Posted on March 30, 2014 by The Game Changer

A few people requested that I write about trusting when it comes to relationships. This is going to be really hard to write about since it is hard for me to trust as well. Sometimes I don’t trust myself and wonder if there will ever be someone in my life that I can honestly say that I trust 100%. What’s funny is a cheater never wants to be cheated on.

People always say without trust you have nothing but in the back of our minds we all have doubts which I call our survival instinct.
The worse part about that “doubt” is that it hardly has anything to do with the person we are currently with. That doubt is a direct result of what someone has done to us in past relationships that haunt us for the rest of our lives that we attempt to suppress. We have all been hurt one way or another when it comes to being in a relationship and you gave them your heart.

This young lady in particular mentioned that every one that she ever dealt with cheated on her! Lust is an evil thing and is hard to resist

Now she is engaged and is about to drive her fiancée insane with her insecurities. Whenever someone text or calls him she wants to know who and why? He happened to have female friends before he met her that are supposedly strictly platonic but she is still not comfortable with him engaging with the opposite sex on that level. This is not off to a good start since it is totally healthy to communicate with the opposite sex with respectful boundaries set in place of course.

I didn’t have time to ask her whether or not she had proof that all of ex’s really cheated. I find it hard to believe that all of them cheated on her but it is very possible. Exactly how many times can you trust someone with your heart when you have been deceived and hurt repeatedly?

You have to keep trusting until the next person you decide to be with proves otherwise; never accusing them of anything without solid proof. Never go digging for dirt what is meant for you to know will come to light without any effort on your part on anyone else for that matter. Some things are better left alone without you ever knowing. Is this the person I want to really be with? This is a very important question you ask yourself before you decide to cheat.

Sometimes hurt people tell LIES because they want you to hurt always remember that. This is not to say if a person knocks on your door and says “I am sleeping with you partner” that you don’t take them seriously. You must always ask the accused first before jumping the gun with your emotions.

Let’s say that maybe they did sleep with this crazy person on your doorstep; take a moment to think about what exactly drove them to go through such extremes that they felt you had to know. People make mistakes and this means that sometimes they may “cheat”…is this a forgivable sin? Yes, when you think about the fact that you two are not married in the first place and want to build a life together indeed it is forgivable. If your mate decided to have unprotected sex with someone than that is another story and very reckless.
Cheating for many is a way to find out if the person you are with is who you ultimately want to spend the rest of your life with. Sounds crazy but if you have no need to cheat or desire to be with anyone then you have your answer.

I’ve had situations that looked really bad but I really didn’t do anything wrong…but once I was grossly accused there was no coming back from that. When you know deep in your heart that you love a person and would never cheat on them but they accuse you that is extremely damaging.

Then you have situations where a person did in fact cheat. What does that mean? It is time to look into what you may lack that caused them to stray or maybe they are just greedy and have no self-control. You have to really sit down and think about what happened and what may have caused it to occur.

Ask them if cheating is something they can’t resist or do they believe they will ever cheat again? What can I do to make this never happen again besides leaving you? Be prepared to hear the truth…ask for the truth! You don’t need to be protected from the truth in order to be destroyed later.

People don’t often want the truth they just settle for the appearance of the truth.

Straight from My Heart, Patrice McCullough

Dear Stalkers…

Posted on March 29, 2014 by The Game Changer

To my beloved Followers who are positive, encouraging and sweet to me…please forgive the following statement…this is not directed towards you but the people who have been stalking and harassing me via cyberspace know exactly who they are! This has been going on since 2010…This will be my last response all future communication will go to spam and will be filed for later use if needed in a court of law.

Dear Stalkers,
I retract the comments that were posted because I actually feel sorry for you. You are a person that needs help. I will continue to pray that you find peace.
People who are bitter and confused often behave out of character but it’s actually who they are.

Miserable people tend to have a twisted distorted beyond repair outlook on life torn between what is right and what is wrong.
They strongly believe their actions are right when it’s clearly without a doubt wrong in so many ways. If your actions hurt someone how can that be right? We all are human and will make mistakes but when those actions are intentional it’s not a mistake. You mentioned you don’t care about me or TW then go away and crawl under your rock!

When you sit back and ponder plotting on how you can destroy someone’s life or at least try you have some serious problems. All the energy you put into bad mouthing me doesn’t hurt one bit because I have so much more good in my life that you become a little black spot that is wiped away mentally. Lies and truths mixed; really doesn’t matter. BTW~ you would be surprised who would put up with me and you better believe it takes a REAL MAN to do that not a PUNK.

You say you know where I work and that is supposed to scare me? You say you know where he works and if you go to his job he should put his foot so far up your arse that you should see his foot come out your mouth. The one thing you don’t do is bring drama to anyone’s job. The police have been notified and my case was assigned a detective that is not exactly on the job so I have to leave it to God to handle.

Besides, the vengeance that comes from the Lord is far better than any law or I could ever bring upon man. You can’t judge me for my actions idiot you are not GOD so take a seat and chill. Relax your deceitful angry soul. Easy huh? LOL Anthing that I do is because I want to…LOL Regrets? Indeed!

Once you finish dragging my name through the mud what else will you have? In time, all that you have done and said will be forgotten along with you. You hide behind a computer screen creating bogus email addresses with names that clearly show you are clinically insane. You threaten me every week commenting on my blog; contacting TW via phone and emailing…who has time for that crazy mess?…why drag it out do what you feel you need to do and leave me the hell alone!

You don’t matter to me and its obvious nobody loves you based on you devious behavior but God.
Why do YOU believe it is better to inform others about something that happened in the past when it is far better to just leave it there? Why fabricate stories or stretch the truth so that you sting a person’s soul? I am good and won’t be the one hurt behind your insanity. I love me and who I have become.
Are you happy now that you were given far too much attention than you deserve? Have a nice life crazy person…

Perfect Patty

Posted on March 27, 2014 by The Game Changer

You know you are doing something right when mentally sick people feel the need to attack you in a public forum. There are fake accounts out there with my pictures from folks pretending to be me! All I can do is PRAY!

I have no idea why so many people believe that I think I am “perfect” so they feel the need to “expose” me. I am far from perfect but I do know what it takes to be happy and that is what they hate the most.

You really need to find a hobby instead of focusing on finding dirt on folks that don’t give a darn about you.

There are some sick individuals out here. They have found my blog and comment on my blog leaving ignorant messages that annoy the heck out of me for about 10 seconds…

Thank God I would never stoop that low and waste my time harassing someone; going to sleep and waking up with them on my mind.

“I am going to expose you” WOW! You really have some serious issues. You don’t realize that you are the devil’s right hand man.

Patrice has to be one interesting woman for you to spend so much time and energy on her. TW does not need your help with anything so beat it. Besides what are you trying to prove other than you are a loser!

Please just go away find something to do with yourself that is positive!

Yes I Can!

Posted on March 27, 2014 by The Game Changer

Why do some folks believe that you must have a perfect life or relationship to be an advisor? In fact, who has a perfect life or relationship? DUH?

I’ve never had a perfect relationship and don’t believe it’s possible. I’ve done my share of dirt and that’s totally acceptable since I am HUMAN!

I would rather take advice from someone who has actually experienced any situation then someone who gives textbook advice.

I never said my life was perfect nor do I have a perfect relationship but I learn from my mistakes!

The best advice comes from those who have been through the fire and survived.

I am no longer in a situation that is unhealthy therefore; I am able to speak on it.

Most of the time we know what should be done but we need to hear or read it; for some odd reason confirmation is needed.

This blog was also created for those who need a different outlook.
We want to discuss our issues with friends and family however that seems to make matters worse. Thanks to my followers who assist me in a positive way xoxoxo replying to questions on my blog.

You can remain anonymous on this site without others knowing what’s going on in your household.
People are evil and have ill intentions so be careful who you share your life with.

You’ll never know how miserable and envious a person is until you let your guards down and let them into your world.

Evil unhappy folks spend their day plotting on how to make you look bad so don’t give them ammunition.

Been there done that!
So, Yes I Can give advice!!!

Have a great day!
Thanks for reading my blog…
Straight from My Heart Patrice

Sometimes…

Posted on March 23, 2014 by The Game Changer

Sometimes we must learn to be silent and listen.
Sometimes you may be right but so are they; it’s just a difference in opinion that you should respect.
Sometimes you want to yell but you must speak softly.
Sometimes you want to cry but smiling feels so much better.
Sometimes you want to be angry when you should be calm.
Sometimes silence is better than saying anything at all.
It’s ok to be human but remember you aren’t super human.

Random Thoughts…

Posted on March 19, 2014 by The Game Changer

Once you accept that pain and disappointment has to be a part of your life you have built a foundation that will not allow you to be happy ever.

There is nothing wrong with having expectations but you must realize that most of the time people won’t live up to those unrealistic expectations that you feel are totally achievable and fair.
What it actually is, we want that person to be like “us” to do things the way we would like them to be done and that is wrong! It’s no better than forcing your religious beliefs on people. You must allow others to be who they are and adjusting to you will take time. You can only hope that the person you are with is open and can observe tension when it occurs in the relationship.

Pain associated with life is inevitable but it’s how you recover from that pain you will come out stronger or more broken.

Have you ever seen someone smiling during an argument or burst out into laughter during conflict? In your opinion you may perceive them as being crazy but realistically they saw the confrontation coming and have been down the road many times before. We have experienced the same stressors many times but tend to react negatively instead of learning from the other encounters and expecting a different outcome.

Stress kills and there is no way around the chemical effects that occur within your body however you can subside those detrimental effects by keeping stressors to a minimum. Your outlook and how you deal with any stressful situation will determine a positive or negative outcome internally and externally.

Straight from The Heart, Patrice (Patty Cakes!)

Actions

Posted on March 15, 2014 by The Game Changer

It seems easier said than done but you must not let the mishaps of life keep you down.

It is normal to feel a certain kind of way when someone does something to you the first time that you have no control over. But when you keep allowing people to keep doing the same things to you that hurt or makes you angry you can’t blame anyone but yourself.

People will do only what you “continue” to allow them to do. People “show” you how they really feel about you although their words say the exact opposite. Pay attention to actions more than the lies they tell you to keep you on a string.

Some folks really believe that they want to be with you because they speak it but they don’t show it. Don’t waste your life with someone that disrespects you when there is someone out there that will love you like you deserve to be loved. It is far better to be alone (single) than with a person that hurts you and breaks your heart everyday.

Patrice McCullough

Author, Blogger, Relationship Advice

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