Halo Effect

From the outside looking in many relationships appear either great or
simply a disaster.

There are also relationships that are kept so private that people begin
to brew rumors. They begin to say things like “There is no way that their relationship is perfect” Whoever said it was perfect? There is no such thing as a “perfect” relationship because human beings are not perfect and never will be.

However , you have relationships that have two people who are “perfect” for each other. These types of folks are those who no longer want to argue and have a common goal they are both trying to achieve. Basically, they are both on the same page traveling in the same direction!

Is it possible for couple to have a disagreement and not argue? Of course, if they both are mature and able to control their emotions. If your boss does something to you that pushes you over the deep end you dare not yell at them or risk losing your job.

This same principle should be applied in relationships…DO NOT YELL…communicate in a calm and civil manner leaving out sarcasm and threats. Take a few days to think about what you would like to discuss and how you plan to deliver your message.

People tend to listen more if you treat them like a human being with respect.

On the other hand, yelling causes the receiver to shut down and start to develop a dislike towards you. This is one of the many reasons why it is also extremely important to know your partners past; to understand why certain behavior such as raising your voice triggers them to act out of character.

Chill out and act you have some sense…you would be surprised how much your relationship would grow if your partner was not afraid to speak with you about things that are troubling them about the relationship.