A person can love you with all their heart and soul but when you begin to cease doing what you did to get them you are brewing a nasty stew.

When you are told several times that you have situations to fix in your relationship you better try or end it. A person that is willing and loves you will say,  “Hey, XYZ is not working and we need to make changes that show that they are in it to win it. Then proceeds to say, “What can I do to help make this work?” Now that is a keeper!

Otherwise, they would say nothing. But the twist to that is after a while they will grow tired and stop trying.  Please don’t act surprised when you see the change in them based on your lack of willingness to fix XYZ. I’ve learned that change can be sudden or implemented slowly-depending on the individual’s sense of urgency to eradicate the “situation”.

Life is too short to keep stringing a person along when you have no intention of improving the situation. When you are told a million times that there are situations that need to be addressed that are causing strain on the future of your relationship if you care you will do whatever it takes to improve. The banger is when the person that brought the situation to your attention tries to make things better through “actions” not false promises and in return you are unresponsive.

This is when the “situation” begins to escalate into a pot of burned stew permeating the house with a dreadful smell.  But the love this person has for you is strong and they are willing to keep trying in spite of. WOW! Even Jesus Christ sees their efforts.

When asked what do you think the”situation” is, the worse thing you can say is “I don’t know.” Even Stevie Wonder can see what the situation is.  How can we fix it “I don’ t know”…Well, it sounds like you don’t know much of anything and basically doesn’t really give a flake. An action is a resolution to any situation whether you chose to stay or actually take actions to make things work.

You can bump your gums all day long but if you are not moving toward communicating and making that situation better you are in for a life of unhappiness. Rejection hurts when it’s a person that you believe loves you.

Please give your feedback…It would be great to know your perspective.

Love,

Patty Cakes!

Never prepared for this…

When I was diagnosed with Triple Stage Breast Cancer…My first thought was that I was going to die. This was before the staging not knowing how, why, when and what did I do to have this awful vicious complicated disease? Answers that would never be answered since my genetic testing came back with no mutated genes. Although cancer is on both sides of my family my parents passed on all good genes to me.

The findings were based on environmental factors not really knowing why or how I developed the most aggressive form of breast cancer. Now, I never really had the best of luck but now this! Whoa…I am healthy as an ox- but maybe this is a test…maybe God is using me to spread awareness. OK! I can do that…but to travel on this journey is not what I expected nor wanted. The positive side to it all- this journey will allow me to relate and communicate how imperative early detection or taking preventative measures to stop cancer in its tracks is! One thing I learned in my case is that stress and lack of Vitamin D helped open the door for cancer.

I lashed out at everyone close to me and this was not in my character. I wanted those that I believed loved me to care when they really never did. You really find out who is there for you in your darkest hours. Sadly some people will celebrate your demise because they are that evil. I will pray for them.

I have since come to grips after being diagnosed on June 4^th, 2018 with State 2, Triple Stage breast cancer. Still, in disbelief, this has been a rough journey. But I must say the support received has been remarkable. I am so happy to have a fighting chance. My view on life has elevated to another level of thankfulness.

Every day is a blessing and reminds me that tomorrow is never promised.

I can only thank God that my husband stuck by me while my mood swings were in an uproar. My imagination began to run wild. As a result of chemotherapy all of my hair fell out and I begin to not feel pretty anymore. Hubby tells me I am beautiful and I believe him 🙂

The side effects of chemo are horrific…I can only plead with everyone that reads this post to make sure that you have your cancer screening yearly. We are so busy with LIFE that we neglect our health.

Ask for genetic testing to determine if you are at risk of developing cancer. Early detection is critical! My treatment is going well and I Praise God every single day for showing me mercy. I am so much stronger than I ever could have imagined.

Love,

Patty Cakes