When you finally wake up…

How can a person that loves you and wants to see you be an annoyance? It is because you are really not interested in them nor have feelings. We all have our bad days and don’t want to bothered, I get that part, but that does not mean you stop loving on each other in spite of it all. It is you and I against the world not you and I against each other.

People have the tendency to either establish their love or prove they never loved you at all on a daily basis if you pay close attention. These standards are based on what you need at that time for them to prove their love. If they refuse then they never loved you. Love has no boundaries or self-doubt. When you love someone there is nothing that you wouldn’t do for them even if it means you forsake everyone besides God. You bare all, have no secrets because you become one. You feel their emotions and can sense when something is wrong. It becomes impossible for you to hurt them on any level because it would be like hurting yourself.

The feeling that I hate to experience is the hurt when you truly trust someone with your heart and they rip it right out of your chest before your eyes. Their eyes are cold as a stone and there is no warmth or love in their voice.

You believe that love has found you, lonely nights have come to an end, and at last, the search is over!

Then BAM! You wake up to who the heck are you and what happened to us? There was never an “us”. There was the hope of what could be.

The tricky part is that you were so caught up on the idea of being in love that you were blinded.
The red flags were all there waving and even smacking you in the face but all you saw was cupid while flying on cloud 9 with the newness of everything. The flipside of it all is we have some situations that when we finally wake up, we have missed the boat and allowed that one person to exit our life and they will never return. That one person that will and can only love you unselfishly but you are too busy chasing rocks and dirt when you have a treasure in front of you.

Years down the road you start to reflect and wonder why you never found true love and end up with this person you hardly know while hating their guts. Yep, the one ship you let sail away because you believed another individual was so much better when you had the best already.

We push real love away to have a false love that will eventually fade. We become weary or carry baggage and all that soul-sucking pain from previous relationships that we ruin our chance at TRUE love. At this point, I’d rather have a puppy. We inflict pain on ourselves by loving someone that is truly incapable of not only loving you they have yet learned what love is and how to love themselves.

Breast Cancer- Changed Me

Cancer is no joke! I cannot tell you enough how important it is to have your yearly cancer screening.

My diagnosis for Triple Negative Breast Cancer was on June 4, 2018. I discovered the tumor while in the shower and ignored it for a few months which could have ended my life. I am always too busy to take care of myself but that will never happen again. Stage 2 wasn’t pretty at all. Chemo was the devil and it was unbearable. There were times I questioned God. I cried many nights and had a few breakdowns. But I never stayed there long.  Being human allows you to cry and experience emotions.

The twist is that God used my boss to push me to finally get my mammogram that was well overdue. After my biopsy, it seemed as if everything started to move fast then slow down to a miserable slow pace. On November 29th I had a surgery and the pathology report came back showing no live cancer cells. I am now cancer free praying it stays this way forever. I had faith that really got me to this point. My journey isn’t over and I plan to do something that will help others with cancer. My experience revealed the level of support needed in order to win the battle with cancer that so many do not have.

I love life so much more and see things differently for the best. My hopes are to make a difference in someone’s life that is fighting cancer and to save lives by advocating early detection. I thank God every day for giving me another shot at life.

 

 

Can I hold $20?

Once we accept that people will not do what we expect them to do life will become less disappointing.

Deciding to help someone whether it is financial or not is a choice. For example, you lend a friend a few hundred dollars with the agreement of them paying you back, but if they decide for some reason to not return the money you may have possibly ruined a friendship.

Never lend money that you expect to be returned or that will place you in a financial bind. Hence, people ask to borrow money because they don’t have it in the first place.  Allow them to pay you back in small increments rather than asking for the entire amount returned since showing effort means so much.

Money is the root of all evil-and have ruined marriages just the same.  Remember if you don’t have the funds to give keep it in your pockets!

Love,

Patty Cakes!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Standards

I ♥️ to write: 😊😂😂

I’ve noticed that so many women remain single because they have a “TYPE” of man they will only consider. There is nothing wrong with having standards when it comes to a man. However; try to make those standards less physical.

I’ll have to be honest, my husband was not what I considered my type.
I wanted a man that was 6 5″, Rock solid body, darn near wealthy, dark chocolate just to name some…my LUST was a long list. Those “types” treated me as if I meant nothing to them…I was a piece of meat.

They dogged me OUT!!! Every woman wanted them, he knew it and did not fear the LORD.

This is not the case with all men fitting the physical description. But the men I ran across were the worse 😡😁🙄

I had to be more realistic and focus on how a man treated me. What they had to offer and how they looked was less important.

Nobody wants to marry a bum….I get that. We all want an attractive face to look at but I prefer a beautiful spirit over it all.

My husband is darling and very handsome which is a plus but wasn’t a must.

Sometimes you have to cultivate your man! Plant seeds and support him….we demand and expect things that are not important.

Get back to the basics and build together, work out together and make your dreams a reality together!

Misery Loves Company!

I love life ♥️♥️♥️you have to love yourself- this protects you from evil people who want to rip you apart.

I can’t stand negative jealous hateful people. I love positive vibes and to be surrounded by loving secure people who don’t judge and see my heart.

There is always a little truth in every joke so why don’t you just STFU!

Experiencing hatred since childhood from people!!

People can be so mean and jealous.

Folks have taken their life over being treated this way. I am truly blessed that I love myself and know the works of the devil.

So many can not stand to see you happy. They pride themselves on trying to alienate you. What they don’t realize is that I am NOT thinking about them. You don’t know a darn thing about me but you don’t like me?

That’s hysterical and very sad. Get a life.

You don’t matter, never did and never will so leave me alone! Don’t talk to me nor look in my direction.

You are not important in my life. I have enough people in my life that love me to the moon and back🙏🏾♥️

False Sisterhood

I’ve known this particular female for over 20 years and loved her like a sister.

Well, she sent me an invitation to her wedding, and it arrived two weeks after her wedding.
Ghetto mailman lost it post date was 30 days prior to wedding date on invite.

I kept calling and texted her to get the location and she NEVER responded.
Ok, over that now…I guess being a new bride to be she was busy.

It really hurt me to miss her wedding.

Several years later we connected on Facebook…I attempted to spend time with my sister like friend, so I thought- she was always busy or too sleepy to see me. I know, I should have taken the hint, but I refused to believe she was that fake and mean.

Then she told me, ” I can’t hang out with you, I can’t compete with you”
She hurt my heart since I loved her in spite of.

I don’t compete with anyone and why would she feel she had to compete with me? If only people would learn to love themselves better and that would totally eliminate insecurity.

I ran into her at the grocery store, and she acted like she saw a ghost…WOW!

The Right Person; Wrong Time

How can you make it the right time for the right person? Funny how we make it the right time for the wrong person unknowingly and mostly knowingly.

Sometimes we meet the right person at the right time and we don’t realize it.

When you are so caught up on yesterday and living in your past you allow the ship to sail away.
Always chasing after the wrong person when the right person is right there in front of you.

We meet the wrong person for the right reasons that we can’t see at the moment.

Seems crazy but we must accept that bad relationships allow us to learn what we don’t want while we find out what we actually want from a future healthy relationship. We should learn what it takes to have a loving and happy union.

There is always a lesson that comes out of both good and bad situations that occur in our lives.
Whether you have a take away from those situations is what makes the difference.