Misery Loves Company!

I love life ♥️♥️♥️you have to love yourself- this protects you from evil people who want to rip you apart.

I can’t stand negative jealous hateful people. I love positive vibes and to be surrounded by loving secure people who don’t judge and see my heart.

There is always a little truth in every joke so why don’t you just STFU!

Experiencing hatred since childhood from people!!

People can be so mean and jealous.

Folks have taken their life over being treated this way. I am truly blessed that I love myself and know the works of the devil.

So many can not stand to see you happy. They pride themselves on trying to alienate you. What they don’t realize is that I am NOT thinking about them. You don’t know a darn thing about me but you don’t like me?

That’s hysterical and very sad. Get a life.

You don’t matter, never did and never will so leave me alone! Don’t talk to me nor look in my direction.

You are not important in my life. I have enough people in my life that love me to the moon and back🙏🏾♥️

You Were Smaller When We First Met!

How do you tell your partner “You have gotten too fat”? They usually know they have gained way too much weight and have either accepted it or become depressed so tread lightly.

Instead, you ask them to work out with you at the gym. Better yet take long walks with the love of your life. Long walks are a good way to spend quality time together. Get a cook book on how to prepare heather meals.

If a trainer fits your budget, hire one that will train you as a couple. The last thing you want is for your partner to become unattached to you because of excess weight gain. But if they met you already juicy and plump then you shouldn’t have any issues.

If your health becomes affected as a result of your weight then you have an entire different issue.
I never imagined in my life that my weight would be an issue and it is a battle every day.

Men usually have no issues with my new-found plumpness but I do!

I think before I eat, try to be consistent in the gym and refuse to buy larger clothes.
The stair master is a huge challenge but I feel accomplished after 15 minutes on that beast of a machine. My goal is work out for 30 minutes on the stair master and I am half way there!
Doesn’t matter if I ever lose another inch what matter is my HEALTH.

straight from the Heart, Patrice McCullough

What we really want…

Exactly what is it that you want in a man or woman that will make you happy and satisfied enough to settle down?  Do they have to make loads of money or can you build together?

The biggest mistake we make is having unrealistic standards; that are mostly physical.

We almost always neglect to take in account the most important aspect of a person and that’s their heart.  Looks are important but we must remember that outer appearances can fade over time.

Here today gone tomorrow holds true to many phases in our life.

 A physical attraction is what baited us; in most cases at least. But what if they have a cute laugh, or you like the way they curl their lip up when they smile?

If you had to choose three things you wanted in a person what would it be in the exact order that you list those qualities?

Think long and hard before you decide what those three qualities would be?  For example, loyalty falls under not cheating, being your best friend, will protect and defend you etc.

My first quality would be that they love themselves which allows them to be loved and to love others.

Second quality would be a person who has a spiritual foundation and respects other religious systems.

Third quality would be loyalty.  I chose these three because it’s so broad and has so many other things that fall under each category.

I don’t need him to be perfect since I am not perfect. I need my man to be just perfect for me.

It’s The “little” things that are really HUGE that mean so much.

Over the years of dating different men I’ve come to realize what is important to ME.

When you tell a man that you are scared and don’t know if you can survive in this world alone…If his reply is “you’ll be ok, I am almost certain you will be just fine” verses
“I am here for you don’t you worry about doing anything alone” shouldn’t that account for something?

Can I stand on my own two feet?
Indeed I can!
What the heck do you think I was doing beforehand but it’s still scary out here. Diseases and the economy is worse than a horror movie…

It’s cold and rainy and you happened to park far and he asked so he knows how far you have parked, you look at his car and wait for him to offer you a ride to your car and nothing happens.

The man that truly is looking out for your best interest would offer you a ride to your car without you having to ask. It’s not a warm sunny day!!!!

You have two huge bags and he never asks whether you need assistance and never takes one of the bags just let’s you carry them…a real man that cares will tell you to hand over both bags and would never let you carry a bag when his hands are empty.

Most folks may think… “why not ask?”
That’s just the same as me asking him “why can’t you be a gentleman?”

Well, maybe this proves nothing but in my world actions are real talk is cheap.

If a man can’t open the car door for you he’s not concerned if you get in the car first and safely anything could happen.

How can you get in the car start it up and watch a woman get in?
That’s the same as me cooking dinner, fixing my plate, sitting down eating then look at him like ummmm?
You can fix your own plate.

A man that cares about you wants to spend time with you outside the bedroom and if the only time you see him is between the sheets you need a reality check.

There are so many red flags that seem minuscule but are indications of what type of man you are dealing with.

Does it mean he’s a bad person? Not at all…he’s just not what I am looking for. I need to be shown not told how much you care. Hearing it accounts for about 20% showing me which is proof accounts for 80%.

Then we find a man that does everything our heart desired BUT somehow he still doesn’t measure up?!?!

Hmmmm? Maybe we are the problem not him.

Don’t Waste My Time…Thank you!

Why do most people take life for granted? Why do we allow others to hurt us and waste our time?
We get comfortable and expect things to manifest; when in fact it takes action not wishing and hoping.
If you are at a standstill long enough eventually mental dust will accumulate so you have to dust yourself off and keep it moving. Never put your life on hold for someone to “decide” that they want to be with you with no projected time frame to bounce.
Because life has a deadline you must give deadlines to yourself to achieve goals or make lifestyle changes. There is nothing wrong with telling someone that they have 60-days to get their act together or you are going to throw them out like Monday morning trash.
Anyone that feels like they have the right to waste your time playing basketball with your heart has no respect for you or your feelings.
Why can’t most people realize that life is precious and not met to gamble away as if you have 9 lives?
For some strange reason folks have in their minds that they will live FOREVER! Well, I am here to inform you that we all will expire one day that’s a FACT.
Is it morbid to talk about death? Death is a part of life and REALITY…IDK…just seems if people actually grabbed the whole death thing maybe they would take life more seriously. Who knows but it’s really annoying when someone has no problem wasting my time and it’s disgusting when I allow them to waste my time.

Love or Great Buddies?

No matter how much we try there will never be a guarantee that we will find true love.
We sort of “settle” for the closest thing to true love barely making it near enough to call it “LOVE”.
I like you a whole lot bunch is what we confuse as love when maybe we are just great buddies?
Most importantly, we must never forget that when you truly love a person you would never hurt them no excuses, never saying, “I really didn’t mean it”; you just don’t hurt the people you love period.

Butterflies and I only have eyes for you is a bunch of crap; besides I feel that way about my car and a few pair of my favorite shoes.
I am just saying; lots of times it isn’t really love; it’s just a certain someone that is new and interesting in your life at the moment.
Love is when you can’t see living life without that person. I am not saying kill yourself if they dump you!

After 90-days of seeing the same person and those butterflies are still hanging around that’s a pretty good indication that you are getting somewhere. The catch is communicating to find out if you both are on the same page looking for the same thing or you will be devastated feeling rather silly only to find out you are just something to do; “literally”.
Honestly, sparks will fly and you will communicate nonverbally like you are Martians from out of space when you meet the love of your life… just my humble opinion folks! You learn this person like the back of your hand and know their every thought…it will blow your mind!

They will be like a missing limb when they aren’t around you…The craziest part is you will think of them every second of the day. Thoughts of them will follow or precede all your other thoughts to the point you will start praying to God to get them off of your mind just for a minute. Its’ nice to think of people but not that darn much but that is what TRUE love does to you.
Love is when your mind and your heart are in sync with a person and you aren’t having major debate about how you feel towards that person. It will all make total sense and feel totally right.
There will be no reservations…

Purge for 2014…

Throw out all the garbage (people) in your life…move on to bigger and better things.
Start counting your blessings not your woes…

Stop tolerating folks that are bipolar before you become just as crazy as they are.
One minute they are UP and the next they are DOWN! “Ain’t anybody got time for that!”

We all have bad days but when it’s every other day you may need to seek some sort of mental help if prayer isn’t working for you.
Some folks are so naive that they confuse someone caring about them as an annoyance.

They’d rather chase after someone that treats them like a second rate citizen.
If someone wants to see you and enjoys your company; what’s wrong with that?
If you don’t feel the same about them why send mixed signals?

You can’t expect someone to be there only when you decide that you want to see them; but when the role is reversed you throw them shade.
If you are into folks being desperate to be with you even that gets old after a while, kind of like a new car once the novelty is gone you want a brand new CAR!
Never force yourself on anyone when there are so many other people who would love to be in your company 🙂

Hey! Come to think of it YOU are your best company ever! Sounds strange but if you can’t stand to be alone and enjoy some “me” time…hmmm?
Work on loving yourself more and trust me watch how many people start to fall off…just try not to hug yourself in public too much.

Be more understanding instead of blowing your top; work on seeing things for what they really ARE not for what you HOPE for them to be.
Smile more but not the big cheesy phony smile; think happy thoughts and keep a positive mindset and watch more smiles magically form on your lips.
Those goals you set for yourself; well, dust them off and conquer those suckers with a vengeance…
It’s time for you to start feeling “accomplished”. Go ahead, stick your chest out and hold your head up high!
Get out; meet new people; sometimes strangers are the nicest people and can become one of your best friends…who knows!?

I almost forgot! Stop letting SEX determine how much you love a person because after the nut then what?