Misery Loves Company!

Posted on June 4, 2016 by The Game Changer

I love life ♥️♥️♥️you have to love yourself- this protects you from evil people who want to rip you apart.

I can’t stand negative jealous hateful people. I love positive vibes and to be surrounded by loving secure people who don’t judge and see my heart.

There is always a little truth in every joke so why don’t you just STFU!

Experiencing hatred since childhood from people!!

People can be so mean and jealous.

Folks have taken their life over being treated this way. I am truly blessed that I love myself and know the works of the devil.

So many can not stand to see you happy. They pride themselves on trying to alienate you. What they don’t realize is that I am NOT thinking about them. You don’t know a darn thing about me but you don’t like me?

That’s hysterical and very sad. Get a life.

You don’t matter, never did and never will so leave me alone! Don’t talk to me nor look in my direction.

You are not important in my life. I have enough people in my life that love me to the moon and back🙏🏾♥️

What we really want…

Posted on December 28, 2013 by The Game Changer

Exactly what is it that you want in a man or woman that will make you happy and satisfied enough to settle down? Do they have to make loads of money or can you build together?

The biggest mistake we make is having unrealistic standards; that are mostly physical.

We almost always neglect to take in account the most important aspect of a person and that’s their heart. Looks are important but we must remember that outer appearances can fade over time.

Here today gone tomorrow holds true to many phases in our life.

A physical attraction is what baited us; in most cases at least. But what if they have a cute laugh, or you like the way they curl their lip up when they smile?

If you had to choose three things you wanted in a person what would it be in the exact order that you list those qualities?

Think long and hard before you decide what those three qualities would be? For example, loyalty falls under not cheating, being your best friend, will protect and defend you etc.

My first quality would be that they love themselves which allows them to be loved and to love others.

Second quality would be a person who has a spiritual foundation and respects other religious systems.

Third quality would be loyalty. I chose these three because it’s so broad and has so many other things that fall under each category.

I don’t need him to be perfect since I am not perfect. I need my man to be just perfect for me.

It’s The “little” things that are really HUGE that mean so much.

Posted on December 24, 2013 by The Game Changer

Over the years of dating different men I’ve come to realize what is important to ME.

When you tell a man that you are scared and don’t know if you can survive in this world alone…If his reply is “you’ll be ok, I am almost certain you will be just fine” verses
“I am here for you don’t you worry about doing anything alone” shouldn’t that account for something?

Can I stand on my own two feet?
Indeed I can!
What the heck do you think I was doing beforehand but it’s still scary out here. Diseases and the economy is worse than a horror movie…

It’s cold and rainy and you happened to park far and he asked so he knows how far you have parked, you look at his car and wait for him to offer you a ride to your car and nothing happens.

The man that truly is looking out for your best interest would offer you a ride to your car without you having to ask. It’s not a warm sunny day!!!!

You have two huge bags and he never asks whether you need assistance and never takes one of the bags just let’s you carry them…a real man that cares will tell you to hand over both bags and would never let you carry a bag when his hands are empty.

Most folks may think… “why not ask?”
That’s just the same as me asking him “why can’t you be a gentleman?”

Well, maybe this proves nothing but in my world actions are real talk is cheap.

If a man can’t open the car door for you he’s not concerned if you get in the car first and safely anything could happen.

How can you get in the car start it up and watch a woman get in?
That’s the same as me cooking dinner, fixing my plate, sitting down eating then look at him like ummmm?
You can fix your own plate.

A man that cares about you wants to spend time with you outside the bedroom and if the only time you see him is between the sheets you need a reality check.

There are so many red flags that seem minuscule but are indications of what type of man you are dealing with.

Does it mean he’s a bad person? Not at all…he’s just not what I am looking for. I need to be shown not told how much you care. Hearing it accounts for about 20% showing me which is proof accounts for 80%.

Then we find a man that does everything our heart desired BUT somehow he still doesn’t measure up?!?!

Hmmmm? Maybe we are the problem not him.

Don’t Waste My Time…Thank you!

Posted on December 22, 2013 by The Game Changer

Why do most people take life for granted? Why do we allow others to hurt us and waste our time?
We get comfortable and expect things to manifest; when in fact it takes action not wishing and hoping.
If you are at a standstill long enough eventually mental dust will accumulate so you have to dust yourself off and keep it moving. Never put your life on hold for someone to “decide” that they want to be with you with no projected time frame to bounce.
Because life has a deadline you must give deadlines to yourself to achieve goals or make lifestyle changes. There is nothing wrong with telling someone that they have 60-days to get their act together or you are going to throw them out like Monday morning trash.
Anyone that feels like they have the right to waste your time playing basketball with your heart has no respect for you or your feelings.
Why can’t most people realize that life is precious and not met to gamble away as if you have 9 lives?
For some strange reason folks have in their minds that they will live FOREVER! Well, I am here to inform you that we all will expire one day that’s a FACT.
Is it morbid to talk about death? Death is a part of life and REALITY…IDK…just seems if people actually grabbed the whole death thing maybe they would take life more seriously. Who knows but it’s really annoying when someone has no problem wasting my time and it’s disgusting when I allow them to waste my time.

Love or Great Buddies?

Posted on December 8, 2013 by The Game Changer

No matter how much we try there will never be a guarantee that we will find true love.
We sort of “settle” for the closest thing to true love barely making it near enough to call it “LOVE”.
I like you a whole lot bunch is what we confuse as love when maybe we are just great buddies?
Most importantly, we must never forget that when you truly love a person you would never hurt them no excuses, never saying, “I really didn’t mean it”; you just don’t hurt the people you love period.

Butterflies and I only have eyes for you is a bunch of crap; besides I feel that way about my car and a few pair of my favorite shoes.
I am just saying; lots of times it isn’t really love; it’s just a certain someone that is new and interesting in your life at the moment.
Love is when you can’t see living life without that person. I am not saying kill yourself if they dump you!

After 90-days of seeing the same person and those butterflies are still hanging around that’s a pretty good indication that you are getting somewhere. The catch is communicating to find out if you both are on the same page looking for the same thing or you will be devastated feeling rather silly only to find out you are just something to do; “literally”.
Honestly, sparks will fly and you will communicate nonverbally like you are Martians from out of space when you meet the love of your life… just my humble opinion folks! You learn this person like the back of your hand and know their every thought…it will blow your mind!

They will be like a missing limb when they aren’t around you…The craziest part is you will think of them every second of the day. Thoughts of them will follow or precede all your other thoughts to the point you will start praying to God to get them off of your mind just for a minute. Its’ nice to think of people but not that darn much but that is what TRUE love does to you.
Love is when your mind and your heart are in sync with a person and you aren’t having major debate about how you feel towards that person. It will all make total sense and feel totally right.
There will be no reservations…

Purge for 2014…

Posted on November 28, 2013 by The Game Changer

Throw out all the garbage (people) in your life…move on to bigger and better things.
Start counting your blessings not your woes…

Stop tolerating folks that are bipolar before you become just as crazy as they are.
One minute they are UP and the next they are DOWN! “Ain’t anybody got time for that!”

We all have bad days but when it’s every other day you may need to seek some sort of mental help if prayer isn’t working for you.
Some folks are so naive that they confuse someone caring about them as an annoyance.

They’d rather chase after someone that treats them like a second rate citizen.
If someone wants to see you and enjoys your company; what’s wrong with that?
If you don’t feel the same about them why send mixed signals?

You can’t expect someone to be there only when you decide that you want to see them; but when the role is reversed you throw them shade.
If you are into folks being desperate to be with you even that gets old after a while, kind of like a new car once the novelty is gone you want a brand new CAR!
Never force yourself on anyone when there are so many other people who would love to be in your company 🙂

Hey! Come to think of it YOU are your best company ever! Sounds strange but if you can’t stand to be alone and enjoy some “me” time…hmmm?
Work on loving yourself more and trust me watch how many people start to fall off…just try not to hug yourself in public too much.

Be more understanding instead of blowing your top; work on seeing things for what they really ARE not for what you HOPE for them to be.
Smile more but not the big cheesy phony smile; think happy thoughts and keep a positive mindset and watch more smiles magically form on your lips.
Those goals you set for yourself; well, dust them off and conquer those suckers with a vengeance…
It’s time for you to start feeling “accomplished”. Go ahead, stick your chest out and hold your head up high!
Get out; meet new people; sometimes strangers are the nicest people and can become one of your best friends…who knows!?

I almost forgot! Stop letting SEX determine how much you love a person because after the nut then what?

Think Before You Eat…

Posted on September 5, 2013 by The Game Changer

I am not a Professional what is shared with you is from my very own personal experiences:

For some reason most people believe you have to starve yourself in order to lose a few pounds when that’s far from the truth. Denying yourself in the beginning (cold turkey) isn’t a good move because you may have a relapse or actually suffer from anxiety when your body has become accustomed to garbage foods.

Think of a drug addict and how they act when they can’t get a fix…kind of the same thing. Anyway, just measure your food eat a cup of everything and once that’s gone if you find you are still hungry eat an apple or a cup of raw almonds chased with a tall glass of water.

It took me over 20 years to put on an extra 40lbs so what makes me think I can lose it in 30-days without half killing myself!

I am not interested in diets pills or those shots they give you to burn fat (I think?) whatever it is I don’t want it. I eat all day little portions of GOOD food and find it more satisfying than eating like a cow grazing on a field except it’s not grass it was fatty foods full of salt etc.

I think before I eat because it really matters what goes in my body and it makes a huge difference in how I feel.

My goal is not to be skinny not a good look for me when I love having meat on bones!
My goal is to be healthy even if I remain a little thick 😉

The Open Toed Shoe Pledge

Posted on June 24, 2013 by The Game Changer

The Open Toed Shoe Pledge
Place your right hand over your heart and repeat after me:

As a member of the Cute Girl Sisterhood, I pledge to follow the Rules
when I wear sandals and other open-toe shoes:

I promise to always wear sandals that fit. My toes will not hang over and touch the ground, nor will my heels spill over the backs. And the
sides and tops of my feet will not protrude out between the straps.

I will go polish-free or vow to keep the polish fresh, intact and chip-free. I will not cheat and just touch up my big toe. I will sand down any mounds of skin before they turn hard and yellow.

I will shave the hairs off my big toe.

I won’t wear pantyhose even if my misinformed girlfriend, coworker,
mother, sister tells me the toe seam really will stay under my toes if I tuck it there.

If a strap breaks, I won’t duct-tape, pin, glue or tuck it back into place hoping it will stay put. I will get my shoe fixed or toss it.

I will not live in corn denial; rather I will lean on my good friend Dr. Scholl’s if my feet need him.

I will resist the urge to buy jelly shoes at Payless for the low, low price of $4.99 even if my feet are small enough to fit into the kids’ sizes This is out of concern for my safety, and the safety of others. No one can walk properly when standing in a pool of sweat and I would hate to take someone down with me as I fall and break my ankle.

I will take my toe ring off toward the end of the day if my toes swell
and begin to look like Vienna sausages. If I have been privy to the magic that is Foot Soup; I will share that knowledge and experience with the non-initiated.

I will be brutally honest with my girlfriend / sister / coworker when
she asks me if her feet are too ugly to wear sandals. Someone has to tell her that her toes are as long as my fingers and no sandal makes creepy feet look good.

I will promise if I wear flip flops that I will ensure that they actually flip and flop, making the correct noise while walking and I will swear NOT to slide or drag my feet while wearing them.

I will promise to go my local beauty school at least once per season and have a real pedicure (they are about $20 and worth EVERY penny).

I will promise to throw away any white/off-white sandals that show signs of wear…nothing is tackier than dirty white sandals.

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Mean 4 No Reason

Posted on June 20, 2013 by The Game Changer

The young lady that hands out the express newspaper at the metro has such a pleasant smile.
Taking a few more seconds to look at her while saying good morning because I sensed something.
I noticed her eyes looked sad behind the smile.
I see this woman every morning and for some reason something was tugging at my spirit!
As if I don’t have my own personal battles…Taking a moment more to look at her while saying good morning; I asked her, “are these people mean to you that come through the metro?
She replied “yes, but not all”
My heart sunk as I took a deep breath.
I replied, “don’t you worry about them ok?, have a nice day”
She thanked me as I noticed that sadness in her eyes disappear.
People can be so mean for no reason and it hurts.
They ignore her like she doesn’t exist, push the paper away or give her dirty looks.
What’s wrong with saying, good morning and/or no thank you?
They look down on her because of her job.
They look down on her because of her race.
But she’s a human being first!!
Shallow people get on my nerves.
We have to stop being hateful towards each other.
We have to stop trying to make others feel inferior because we think we are so perfect based on what society dictates.
YOU WILL ANSWER FOR YOUR ACTIONS!!!

Patrice McCullough

Author, Blogger, Relationship Advice

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