Random Thoughts #2

• When you finally realize what you don’t want in a relationship that’s better than not knowing.
• Sometimes we know what we want but aren’t too clear on exactly what that may be.
• For some strange reason most people specifically females get caught up in what I call fairytale love.
• My opinion, most folks get married for financial gain and great sex over love. This is not the case with every situation.
• When someone tells you that they don’t love you; believe them.
• If someone tells you that they love you; tell them to show you as well.
• The worst part is you not knowing if the other person truly loves you or if they are with you because you have “benefits”. People are very good at faking it until they make it.
• Being afraid to give your heart to someone is not the way anyone should live but being cautious is very necessary.
• Having a history with someone means nothing if that history is full of deceit, pain and misery.
• Don’t ever believe that love is supposed to hurt; if it does you are forcing something that is not meant to be.
• It’s not fair but who said life was? You may totally love someone with all your heart and they may just “like” you.

Love Should Not Hurt…

If a relationship is painful and you have to constantly struggle with keeping it alive then you are wasting not only your time but theirs as well.

I never understood why people feel like they have to cry, fight, scream and hurt in order to have a meaningful relationship. I often hear people say, “We have a history” ok, that’s great but how good is that history?

If they don’t hit you, call you dreadful names or act like a jealous manic they don’t care?

Far from the truth, it’s the exact opposite. People who love you will set you free because they realize you are not property and will respect your decision to end the unhealthy relationship.

It is impossible to not have disagreements and become angry with your partner. However, the way you resolve your issues is when the real test comes into play. Love shouldn’t hurt and it surly should not drain your spirit.

Love is holding your best friend’s hand waking up every morning to warm smiles thinking of how you can make each other happier. Love is a 50/50 spilt and if you aren’t there in the beginning work towards it. You need someone that will at the minimum meet you half way. There should never be only person putting in all the work while building a relationship.

Love is respect, loyalty and admiration as well as humbling in a sense that it has become a rarity these days.

Love should be easy and sweet taking you to a place that is pure euphoria detaching you from reality so much that you have to pull each other back.

Love does not ask questions it just exists and blossoms each day with a foundation that no man can destroy.