There will be a multitude of situations in life that you will need to cultivate like a harvest. This includes relationships. We want this prefect ready to go relationship with a person that is not categorized as “work in progress”. In fact, the person who desires this perfect relationship and man/woman to go along with it all is the one with the most issues. Most people want what they are not or can’t offer.
This does not mean you welcome a person into your life that cheats, and abuses you on all levels. Please don’t ever believe that people will change just because of marriage. They will be the same person they were prior to getting married. Change will only come if they decide on their own to make that change. You can’t change a person it is ultimately their decision. You will hear people say , “She changed me” nope buddy you made that change on your own. You decide to change because you knew that you wold lose her if you didn’t. “He changed me,” Nope lady you changed on your own because you realized you have a good thing going with him.
Relationships are very similar to building a house. You must have a strong foundation or the infrastructure will collapse. You must maintain your relationships and implement upgrades and improvements along the way within. Ever notice how dedicated most are to their jobs? They are loyal to the employer, remained employed over the years, received promotions because of this! The same should apply to your relationship. Be loyal, dedicated, respect each other’s time, produce, don’t make unnecessary mistakes and I could go on. Your actions mean everything. Don’t show up for work or scream at your boss and see what happens next. You will be fired…Life is so short that you really need to know that the right person needs a little cultivating.
Have a wonderful day and I wish you a successful and healthy relationship!
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I’ve noticed that so many women remain single because they have a “TYPE” of man they will only consider. There is nothing wrong with having standards when it comes to a man. However; try to make those standards less physical.
I’ll have to be honest, my husband was not what I considered my type.
I wanted a man that was 6 5″, Rock solid body, darn near wealthy, dark chocolate just to name some…my LUST was a long list. Those “types” treated me as if I meant nothing to them…I was a piece of meat.
They dogged me OUT!!! Every woman wanted them, he knew it and did not fear the LORD.
This is not the case with all men fitting the physical description. But the men I ran across were the worse 😡😁🙄
I had to be more realistic and focus on how a man treated me. What they had to offer and how they looked was less important.
Nobody wants to marry a bum….I get that. We all want an attractive face to look at but I prefer a beautiful spirit over it all.
My husband is darling and very handsome which is a plus but wasn’t a must.
Sometimes you have to cultivate your man! Plant seeds and support him….we demand and expect things that are not important.
Get back to the basics and build together, work out together and make your dreams a reality together!
I’ve known this particular female for over 20 years and loved her like a sister.
Well, she sent me an invitation to her wedding, and it arrived two weeks after her wedding.
Ghetto mailman lost it post date was 30 days prior to wedding date on invite.
I kept calling and texted her to get the location and she NEVER responded.
Ok, over that now…I guess being a new bride to be she was busy.
It really hurt me to miss her wedding.
Several years later we connected on Facebook…I attempted to spend time with my sister like friend, so I thought- she was always busy or too sleepy to see me. I know, I should have taken the hint, but I refused to believe she was that fake and mean.
Then she told me, ” I can’t hang out with you, I can’t compete with you”
She hurt my heart since I loved her in spite of.
I don’t compete with anyone and why would she feel she had to compete with me? If only people would learn to love themselves better and that would totally eliminate insecurity.
I ran into her at the grocery store, and she acted like she saw a ghost…WOW!
That is the million dollar question! Each situation is different and there is no cure all to keep a person from cheating.
Before considering branding a person as a cheater you must be clear on what is exactly cheating?
If you are married and you have intercourse with another individual, that is beyond cheating! Heck, you have sunk to an all time low and should have your azz kicked!
Jesus is waiting at the gate ready to slam it in your face! He may give you pass but it better be a good explanation.
If you are just dating, sit your silly controlling self down please! Yes, you do have to start somewhere, and I understand that dating is where the foundation starts! However, you are not married so basically you can see and be with whom you choose…just be SAFE!
When you get “married” that is when all bets are off…If you really think you can’t keep your frank in your pants or your lily pad on lock then don’t freaking get married.
Be single and be a whore all your darn life instead of telling lies tell the truth!
Let folks know up front that all you want is sex. It’s all about choices, and when you take that away from folks that makes them lose their mind!!
There are so many people who don’t want to be committed and lie just to get some of that hot pocket or sausage that it’s ri’dick”vicious. Yes, I made the word up :).
OMG! People will do the most just to get laid…so sad! Just be honest then you will never be labeled as a cheater, and even if you are given the cheating crown, you can honestly say, well, I told you so!
How can you make it the right time for the right person? Funny how we make it the right time for the wrong person unknowingly and mostly knowingly.
Sometimes we meet the right person at the right time and we don’t realize it.
When you are so caught up on yesterday and living in your past you allow the ship to sail away.
Always chasing after the wrong person when the right person is right there in front of you.
We meet the wrong person for the right reasons that we can’t see at the moment.
Seems crazy but we must accept that bad relationships allow us to learn what we don’t want while we find out what we actually want from a future healthy relationship. We should learn what it takes to have a loving and happy union.
There is always a lesson that comes out of both good and bad situations that occur in our lives.
Whether you have a take away from those situations is what makes the difference.
Just when you think someone is your friend they prove otherwise. I must admit when I saw her post on Facebook it really hurt my little feelings.
Sometimes I can be overly emotional; however this is only when bamboozled into thinking you really care about me as a Human Being First than a friend.
For example; I post pictures of Timmie and myself on my page all the time. There are several posts that represent positive feedback not only about Timmie but about MEN being wonderful. Not all men are dogs or no good dead beat Fathers.
Funny I stumbled across a post that went against the “loving” activity on my page.
Her statement was valid however; not in my case at all. Just because your relationship/marriage was ruined as a result of social media does not mean that will happen to my relationship.
Only the strong survive who have REAL LOVE as the foundation of their relationship. Trust and loyalty means everything if you don’t have that you have nothing! Yes, we had to rebuild our trust now it’s solid as a ROCK!
There are just not enough positive things said about Black Men in general when it comes to relationships and being a parent.
I am beginning to think that if you are happy MANY people hate you and want you to be miserable with them. There are so many folks who lived a miserable life for as long as they can remember. But whose fault is that? Definitely not my fault you are miserable.
If you smile too much you are phony and don’t even think about being overly positive then you are annoying. Who in the heck came up with the statement “behind every smile is pain”? That is the most ridiculous thing ever! You better believe that if I am in “pain” I won’t crack a smile no way no how!
I just believe that being unhappy is a choice no matter the situation since it can always be much worse.
Whatever your religious system is you will not be judged by me.
I am moving towards living a life that is more pleasing to God. The closer I get it seems things become more difficult. On the other hand, I see so many blessings flow from the heavens and favor is shown towards me.
This does not mean I will go around throwing bibles at people trying to spread the word. But if you want to listen willingly to my story and how my life was saved so many times that would be a wonderful thing.
My story is not for you to gossip to others about what I chose to share since it would be my testimony not “putting my business in the streets”. The only way you would really know my journey and come to realize that the only reason why I am alive today is because of JESUS is from my story.
I don’t have to be PERFECT! I may curse and ask to be forgiven immediately after. I still have thoughts that are not pleasing to God and I ask him to forgive me for sinful thoughts alone as well.
I have done things that were awful and still asking for forgiveness just to make sure he heard me.
Actions and a thought can be sins.
The most beautiful thing about Jesus is he sees my heart and loves me unconditionally and this is the best feeling in the world. I know that I am doing something right when so many form against me and try to destroy my very existence and FAIL MISERABLY.
I have been kissed on the cheek. I have been hugged. I have been told “I love you” when that was my enemy saying “I hate you” and giving me the kiss of death. But I wanted to believe they loved me because I love them.
If you only knew how low people have stooped to make me look “BAD”. Who does that but the devil’s helpers? They tried to ruin my future with my soon husband to be…they actually contacted him! They wanted so badly for us to stay apart…sorry you LOST…..When every soul on this earth shouts NO simultaneously and GOD says YES…you already know!