Learn to Cultivate Your Relationship…

There will be a multitude of situations in life that you will need to cultivate like a harvest. This includes relationships. We want this prefect ready to go relationship with a person that is not categorized as “work in progress”.  In fact, the person who desires this perfect relationship and man/woman to go along with it all is the one with the most issues. Most people want what they are not or can’t offer. 

This does not mean you welcome a person into your life that cheats, and abuses you on all levels. Please don’t ever believe that people will change just because of marriage. They will be the same person they were prior to getting married. Change will only come if they decide on their own to make that change. You can’t change a person it is ultimately their decision. You will hear people say ,  “She changed me” nope buddy you made that change on your own. You decide to change because you knew that you wold lose her if you didn’t. “He changed me,”  Nope lady you changed on your own because you realized you have a good thing going with him. 

Relationships are very similar to building a house. You must have a strong foundation or the infrastructure will collapse. You must maintain your relationships and implement upgrades and improvements along the way within. Ever notice how dedicated most are to their jobs? They are loyal to the employer, remained employed over the years, received promotions because of this! The same should apply to your relationship. Be loyal, dedicated, respect each other’s time, produce, don’t make unnecessary mistakes and I could go on. Your actions mean everything. Don’t show up for work or scream at your boss and see what happens next. You will be fired…Life is so short that you really need to know that the right person needs a little cultivating. 

Have a wonderful day and I wish you a successful and healthy relationship!

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How Important Is Being Accepted Socially?

No matter how much you smile or how much you love there will always be someone who will not accept you.

When you base your life on the acceptance of others just for the sake of fitting in you set yourself up for failure emotionally. There are some sick unhappy people who will pick you apart and try to find everything negative about you they can…stay away from those types!

We all have some bad in us but our goal should be to have the good outweigh the bad.
We can all learn patience and how to be gracefully insulted while we seek understanding when communicating with someone who may offend us. We don’t have to accept anyone into our circle but you should respect who they are and not speak foully about them which by the way makes you far worse.

There are many people who morph into someone they are not just so they can simply “fit in” losing their true selves. If you are outspoken and rough around the edges that is who you are and if people can’t embrace your realness that is something they have to deal with.

You will never know a person’s journey and what shaped them into who they are today so before you reject someone try to accept them for who they are most importantly understand that you are not perfect as well.

It takes all kinds of personalities to make the world a more exciting place to live!
When it’s all said and done…I would rather be rejected for being me than accepted for pretending to be someone I am not.

Thank You!!!!

Thank You!
This blog was created to allow people to ask their most personal questions without being “JUDGED”

You just can’t trust everybody with your business period…Here you can spill your guts because we have no idea who you are 🙂
This blog allows you to remain anonymous without having to worry about backstabbing, jealous, gossiping evil people talking behind your back after you trusted them enough to confide in.

I felt that airing a little of my dirty laundry would set the stage knowing this would be risky…but I didn’t care.
I want to thank each of you who took the time to not only read my blog but actually left a comment.

Positive, constructive criticism is always welcomed. Many of you have good hearts and are extremely mature and that is rare!

My following is supportive, intelligent and humorous! I am so grateful to have moderation capabilities that will not allow any comments to show up on my blog before I approve them…Spam is a blessing too!

If you only knew how many times I was grossly attacked via my blog your head would spin. What keeps me going is the GOOD PEOPLE on my blog…
AGAIN, thank you all for following me and spreading the word about my blog you are totally cool for that in so many ways!

Love you all no kidding
Straight form the Heart, Patrice

PHAT ~vs~ FAT

My hips are wide my butt is round and plump. My butt sits up and out hmmm? I have big Shapley legs, average bust size with a pretty small waist. However, I am still FAT but most guys call me PHAT. Either way, never mind what the freaking acronym for PHAT is! They both sound the dang same for goodness sakes just don’t refer to me using either term thank you very much. Matter of fact at what stage in a man’s life do they discontinue using daunting terms that are rather abrasive if you ask me? You call me crazy and say ” gosh you look great.”
But the scale never lies when someone that is a little over 6 feet is the same weight as me standing a little over 5 feet…WOW! How is that even possible? Well, it is sadly to say . Consequently, I am able to carry the weight very well. Magically the FAT is distributed evenly if that makes any sense…I posted my pics check me out standing at a hefty 190lbs! There has to be some scientific explanation.