Sometimes I believe that you can overthink not just situations but LIFE itself…Here comes the worry monster and it just gobbles up all your happiness.
Lately, I have also noticed that people in general focus on the things they have absolutely no power over more often than not.
The things we can change we neglect to actually take action with procrastination being the devil…instead we focus on things that have already happened that we can’t reverse rather than the things we have the power to change.
I am totally guilty of worrying about things that will be no matter how much I may wish or hope it away.
My focus is being proactive not reactive to LIFE…this is easier said than done without a doubt.
Naturally, there are some situations that will only allow you to be reactive but this only means you weren’t proactive.
If someone slaps you in the face more than likely you saw it coming but instead of removing yourself from harm’s way (proactive) you stay and get slapped therefore you return the favor (reactive).
Life is the same way…but we chose to put the blinders on then look at adversity like a deer’s eyes illuminated by blinding headlights.
None of us have a crystal ball to help us along the way however there are red flags and major indicators that we overlook because we don’t want to accept the possible outcome.
Instead of dwelling on things we can’t change let’s focus on what’s next and the things we can change!
You will soon find that your stress level will be almost non-existent….Life is too short to get stuck in a rut we have to keep it moving. People will not only see “happy” on your face they will smell it a mile away and hate you for it….because they too want to be happy just like you!
I am sharing this episode with you just to show you how busy the devil is. There are so many people who do not want my relationship to work!
A few days ago this punk I used to date texted me. It’s been over 10 years and I have no idea how he got my number. When I asked him how he got my number at least three times he never responded.
I changed my number from when we used to date and I have not seen him in years. He finally responded “God gave it to me”.
In the beginning, I had no idea who he was but once he revealed something to me that only we would know it was made crystal clear.
Be that as it may, I was not excited to hear from that loser at all. The reason why we never made it is because he wanted me and other women too! I don’t share so I moved on and that was the best thing ever for me.
I only wish whoever gave him my number would never do that again without at least informing me first.
The block feature is a blessing in disguise and you know he is now BLOCKED!
The last time I saw him some woman knocked on his door and he told me to be quiet…I wanted to scream to the top of my lungs “He has another woman in here!!”
But instead, I told myself that once I walked out that door to NEVER return and I didn’t.
I am so happy I didn’t settle for the “BS” because it allowed me to meet my baby who would never in a million years allow me to go through such a humiliating ordeal.
Just go away and leave us alone…there is nothing you can do to break us apart we are stronger than ever before.
I am not in a position to “suggest” or tell anyone to leave their 5-8 year relationship even if they aren’t married or engaged. No judging over here; when I stayed with my man for 6 years…If you decide to end your relationship it’s your choice!!!
When you read my blog and comments please don’t add what’s not there…COMPREHENSION is critical.
Now if you told me he was abusive (slapping you around and punching on you) then YES you should leave ASAP no question about that. However; if verbal or physical abuse is not an issue how the heck can I tell someone to leave? There are TWO sides to every story…
I merely posted a topic specifically about my life that some people assumed in some crazy deranged way that they should dump their boyfriends.
My life is exactly that…MY LIFE! Do whatever you choose and I have nothing to do with it. You are given my opinion ONLY and YOU have to make your OWN choice.
We are all adults so stop blaming others for choices that you make alone.
Update on my situation:
We decided to take a break so we can clear our minds to see if marriage is what we really need or want.
I believe if he couldn’t decide long ago it’s obvious this is a last-minute ploy he swears is not the case. Yes, he’s a GREAT NICE GUY but he’s not the only NICE GREAT GUY in the world.
Guess what? I am not blaming anyone about the decision we made together no matter what I was told to do not suggested!
People leave because they want to not because someone told them to…If that is the case they wanted to leave anyway or you are that weak to allow someone to (unbeknownst to them) to decide in your mind based on something you made up.
What a perfect excuse “I read 5 years no ring WTF? That’s why I left…smh
STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART, PATRICE