Purge for 2014…

Throw out all the garbage (people) in your life…move on to bigger and better things.
Start counting your blessings not your woes…

Stop tolerating folks that are bipolar before you become just as crazy as they are.
One minute they are UP and the next they are DOWN! “Ain’t anybody got time for that!”

We all have bad days but when it’s every other day you may need to seek some sort of mental help if prayer isn’t working for you.
Some folks are so naive that they confuse someone caring about them as an annoyance.

They’d rather chase after someone that treats them like a second rate citizen.
If someone wants to see you and enjoys your company; what’s wrong with that?
If you don’t feel the same about them why send mixed signals?

You can’t expect someone to be there only when you decide that you want to see them; but when the role is reversed you throw them shade.
If you are into folks being desperate to be with you even that gets old after a while, kind of like a new car once the novelty is gone you want a brand new CAR!
Never force yourself on anyone when there are so many other people who would love to be in your company 🙂

Hey! Come to think of it YOU are your best company ever! Sounds strange but if you can’t stand to be alone and enjoy some “me” time…hmmm?
Work on loving yourself more and trust me watch how many people start to fall off…just try not to hug yourself in public too much.

Be more understanding instead of blowing your top; work on seeing things for what they really ARE not for what you HOPE for them to be.
Smile more but not the big cheesy phony smile; think happy thoughts and keep a positive mindset and watch more smiles magically form on your lips.
Those goals you set for yourself; well, dust them off and conquer those suckers with a vengeance…
It’s time for you to start feeling “accomplished”. Go ahead, stick your chest out and hold your head up high!
Get out; meet new people; sometimes strangers are the nicest people and can become one of your best friends…who knows!?

I almost forgot! Stop letting SEX determine how much you love a person because after the nut then what?

I just want to have sex…that’s it

If a person tells you in the beginning “I just want to have sex” why do you expect more from them as time goes by?

You have to be up front with folks and let them know what you expect from them.
If they feel they can’t deliver then they are not for you. Beware of LIES folks will tell you anything and everything you want to hear believe only ACTIONS.

If you both aren’t expecting anything (best case scenario) then it’s fair game.
However, someone will eventually get their emotions caught up in this little fling thing you have going on so you have to be realistic. “We are just friends” that’s cute at first but it can get ugly in the end. People have mastered how to be honest but somehow they seem to tell you more lies that bury the honest part.

Listen to your gut when it tells you to “GET OUT”. Most importantly be aware keep your eyes and ears open at all times. They will not only show you how they feel they will tell you unknowingly sometimes.

People who are afraid to commit are the most dangerous people to trust your heart with.
Stop thinking you have this magical power to change someone’s heart.

It takes a miracle from God and you being the one in a million individual to change that person’s heart when they are hell bent on never falling in love again because they feel it’s just not worth it.

Sex is VERY intimate especially for women. SEX changes the entire game!

Dating Games

When you are dating someone and you somehow come up with this verbal contract that you will not do this or that, unfortunately, that will not hold up in a court of law.

I am trying to figure out why people think they have the right to “own” you in a sense but never fully commit by either proposing or actually marrying you. I’ve heard many times that in order for you to move on to the next level you have to start somewhere. That’s fair, however; do you really know for certain the other party is on the same page as you are? We all know marriage is no guarantee of commitment these days!

Are they saying or doing “just enough” to appease you? Can I get a freaking promise ring or something?

They know exactly what to do to keep you dangling and your feelings grow deeper for them never knowing they are not really that into you. The sex is good they have your mind, have you coming back every time.

In reality, you are single and should be free to do what you please within reason and remaining as respectful as possible. Instead, we give our all when in fact the other party has no intention of ever fully committing which actually sucks when you think about it.

People will lie just to have two pieces of pie. They want to gamble and string you along until they decide who they want to settle down with if they ever do. You are either in this or not there is no in-between life is too short to play games.

Diarrhea of the Mouth…

Diarrhea of the mouth is a terrible thing and has not only hurt but ruined people’s lives!
Be very careful sharing personal sensitive matters with others.
Evil people store everything you tell them in their little pea sized brain to throw in your face later.
People like this are weak individuals with no integrity.
No matter how ugly a
disagreement/breakup is you should never use what someone told you about themselves to hurt or embarrass them.
People who behave this way make me wish I never met them and make me want to vomit.
Be leery of those that are eager to hear all the juicy or bad stuff going on in your life but tell you zero about them or just enough to keep you talking.
If you divulge information shared in confidence with others you are a piece of stinky poop and can’t be trusted.
Go crawl back under your rock you snake.

Does Love Expire?

We all have different thresholds when it comes to how much we will endure.
If the wind blows some of us in the wrong direction we give up. Fighting for love just doesn’t seem advantageous to me or maybe I am just lazy. Love to me should come easy, flow with no restrictions and happen when you least expect it never actually planning it.

The first time a man tells me that I must not really love him because I won’t argue will make me run for the hills. You have got to be freaking kidding me? Do you think I want to live my life arguing with anyone? That’s a double negative dude and you can keep it moving bye- bye. Anything worth having is worth fighting for when it comes to relationships, no way! You are either in this or not buddy take your pick because I am not fighting or forcing anyone to be with me.

Some will fight through quicksand for years until they finally decide they have had enough. I am lover not a fighter but have been known to stick around way too longer than I should for the sake of finding love. After a while, I begin to feel like a used sucker providing perks that only a husband should be privy to.

Love expires no matter what they say about it being forever. There is indeed a thin line between love and hate as well. When people play games with your emotions it can be devastating especially when the entire relationship was never real.

How can someone FAKE a relationship that last for years? I have no idea but it has been done even when it comes to marriages. My honest opinion would be it’s nobody’s fault but my own if I don’t realize he’s a phony when the writing is almost always on the wall.

We not only know when someone is taking us seriously we can feel it but instead we choose to hope that one day their feeling will change. Lust will get you caught up every time.

Never ignore your instinct or the little feeling you get when things are not right it’s how you protect your heart. The one thing that scares me the most is that I actually may enjoy being single for the rest of my life if that means peace of mind is the prize.

Dating & Money!

Women who expect a man to take care of them 100% is complete nonsense while you sit on your arse doing nothing. Clean up the house, cook do something!
If you do expect a man to support you 100% do not be upset if a man requires the same.
Being lazy and greedy has nothing to do with whether you are a female or male.
Nobody that has good sense wants to be involved with a broke, lazy, greedy bum who constantly has their hands out in the palm up position.
It does not have to be 50/50 but don’t expect the man to do everything alone just because you spread your wings.
80/20 works for me!
If a man CHOOSES to be your sole provider by all means allow him! Just treat the man out to dinner and OFFER to help sometimes.


What if you died tomorrow? What would people say about you?
Do you feel you have accomplished enough in life?
Have you wasted your life chasing after things that have no significance?
Are you afraid of being alone when you came into this world alone (minus twins)
But you will leave alone unless fate decides otherwise.
There comes a time in everyone’s life when we need to really think about how far we have come and where we are headed.
Take your heart with you and guard it with care but don’t forget to bring your brains with you.
Love yourself and allow others to love you.
Life will present hurdles so JUMP! You may fall but you MUST get back up!
No matter how small your dreams are or goals you must make progress baby steps are fine.
Don’t become stagnated while on your journey keep it moving! You may be alive but you are really dead on the inside if you let your life waste away. In order to be happy you have to learn to depend on yourself!

The Man I Will Fall In Love With…

Sex in a relationship is indeed important. However, sex alone should not be the deciding factor on whether you fall in love with someone. Lust should never be confused with LOVE.

A man that will not verbally or phycically abuse me is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man that never makes excuses but finds resolutions is a man I will fall in love with.
A man that takes care of his kids not just financially but who gives them the love they need to grow is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man who has character and feels no need to lie to me is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man who is not afraid to commit, communicates, loyal,God-Fearing, Hardworking, Ambitious, Humorous and is sensitive to my needs is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man who is not afraid to apologize when he his wrong is a man that I will fall in love with.
A man who will rub my feet when I tell him that they hurt is a man that I will fall in love with without asking him to.
A man that loves his mother and respects all women no matter where they are from or what they have done is a man I will fall in love with.
A man who will love my children as much as they love me is a man I will fall in love with.
A man that I can tell him just about everything and will never judge me is a man that I will fall in love with.

I would be just as worthy as he is to me no double standrds allowed.
Everything else will fall into place…

Let Go!


Letting go of the past isn’t an easy task but unless you let go your life will remain at a standstill.
There will be opportunities and true love that you will miss out on because you are still living in the past.
Start off fresh without fear of history repeating itself.
The first few blows hurt may even knock you down just get up!
You must learn how to cope and bounce back no matter the circumstance.
Life will have highs and lows there’s no way around disappointment and hurt.
However, there are ways to survive even the most heart wrenching events that may occur in your life.
You have to believe that time heals all pain that may not necessarily disappear but will subside if you allow it to happen.
I have witnessed the weakest person overcome hell and the strongest person break like a twig only because they made a decision to fight for their life while the other simply gave up.
Whatever you do learn from your mistakes move on and never repeat those same mistakes.
Life is precious and we all have our moments but we can’t stay there. Seek out positive things even when your life seems to be tumbling down before your eyes. Stop wasting time doing things that don’t make you happy or being with someone that makes you miserable. Time is the most precious commodity we have that cannot be restored

Sex Can Wait

As you get older you grow tired of the games guys play just to get in your pants. Dating can be scary besides who wants to kiss someone with herpes?
You just want someone that is honest and will wait for you no matter how long it takes (within reason of course!) and not rush you into sex. Waiting for STD Panel and HIV results isn’t a bad idea and not intrusive when you are putting your clean bill of health at risk.
I wish it were as simple as wearing a condom but it’s not.
If a person really adores you they would never bring up sex in conversations because they are really that into you!
Don’t get me wrong they want to jump your bones and that’s natural but it’s not a priority like it is to MOST. Women want to give themselves but when they feel the time is right.
We may even participate in the sexual conversation etc. while in the back of our minds we are thinking it’s not even two weeks and this dude is talking about having sex with me.
Maybe when they start selling canned hello kitty on the shelves they will calm down because its really unbecoming to appear as being THIRSTY!
I will admit having sex too early in the game has resulted in major disappointment afterwards. It’s like the blinders are off and you can finally see the real person not the person they pretended to be in order to conquer you.
I just really believe no matter how Horney or attracted you are to a person holding out for a while is best in the end.
Sex clouds your ability to make rational decisions especially when the sex is awesome!
Find out if you actually like the person at the very least minus your over active hormones.
Time will not reveal all but waiting will give you a pretty good idea of what you are dealing with.
You simply need more than sex to build a foundation that will lead to a beautiful long lasting relationship.
Things won’t always be perfect but knowing you are friends will allow you to resolve just about any issue.
It’s just so risky in many ways that you need to protect yourself in all areas.