Power ~vs~ Powerless

Sometimes I believe that you can overthink not just situations but LIFE itself…Here comes the worry monster and it just gobbles up all your happiness.

Lately, I have also noticed that people in general focus on the things they have absolutely no power over more often than not.

The things we can change we neglect to actually take action with procrastination being the devil…instead we focus on things that have already happened that we can’t reverse rather than the things we have the power to change.

I am totally guilty of worrying about things that will be no matter how much I may wish or hope it away.

My focus is being proactive not reactive to LIFE…this is easier said than done without a doubt.
Naturally, there are some situations that will only allow you to be reactive but this only means you weren’t proactive.

If someone slaps you in the face more than likely you saw it coming but instead of removing yourself from harm’s way (proactive) you stay and get slapped therefore you return the favor (reactive).
Life is the same way…but we chose to put the blinders on then look at adversity like a deer’s eyes illuminated by blinding headlights.

None of us have a crystal ball to help us along the way however there are red flags and major indicators that we overlook because we don’t want to accept the possible outcome.
Instead of dwelling on things we can’t change let’s focus on what’s next and the things we can change!

You will soon find that your stress level will be almost non-existent….Life is too short to get stuck in a rut we have to keep it moving. People will not only see “happy” on your face they will smell it a mile away and hate you for it….because they too want to be happy just like you!

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Don’t Be Angry…

The very man/woman you are pouring your heart out to with hopes they can shed some light on your relationship woes is the very one who is envious of what you have. Just go talk to granny or pops and get some old school advice. Let’s hope they are not worse than your imposter friends.

When you tell someone about issues you are having in your relationship then wake up the next morning and it’s all over the 8 o’clock news don’t be angry. Learn to be more selective with the company you keep and whom you share your personal life with.

Remember that every time you decide to share your personal life you are taking a risk of that person having diarrhea of the mouth. People will pretend to care about you just to get close and destroy you.

I will never understand why someone would waste their time and energy trying to make someone miserable other than it has to be a sickness. I’d rather blog, work out or read a book before I spend my time hating on someone. Serioiusly? GET A LIFE!

Some folks can’t hold water. Right after you tell them something ten other folks will know every detail you shared with big mouth. In this world you basically can’t trust anyone but who wants to live life that way? This is exactly why you look for red flags!
People will show you their true character over time.

If your so-called friend tells you something that another person said about you that was negative you really don’t want to tell them a darn thing about your personal life.

I’ve had a female tell me that some chick came to her and had all this negative mess to say about me and she listened. The winch had the nerve to chime in with the heifer.
To make matters worse she in some way thought that her telling me that she agreed with the hater chick made her noble. #Blown.com

I was thinking in my head this b*tch is fake and phony and I wish she would leave me the heck alone. Both she and that hating chick can go kick rocks who by the way smiles in my face like nothing was ever said. Whoa!

Real women come directly to you when they have a problem they feel needs to be brought to your attention not gossip to others!

These are the types of people you never tell your business to no matter how much you want them to be your friend they are NOT.

Again, don’t be angry when the entire neighborhood knows your life story because you decided to share it with a snake.

Straight from The Heart, Patrice McCullough

Actions

It seems easier said than done but you must not let the mishaps of life keep you down.

It is normal to feel a certain kind of way when someone does something to you the first time that you have no control over. But when you keep allowing people to keep doing the same things to you that hurt or makes you angry you can’t blame anyone but yourself.

People will do only what you “continue” to allow them to do. People “show” you how they really feel about you although their words say the exact opposite. Pay attention to actions more than the lies they tell you to keep you on a string.

Some folks really believe that they want to be with you because they speak it but they don’t show it. Don’t waste your life with someone that disrespects you when there is someone out there that will love you like you deserve to be loved. It is far better to be alone (single) than with a person that hurts you and breaks your heart everyday.

Random Thoughts #2

• When you finally realize what you don’t want in a relationship that’s better than not knowing.
• Sometimes we know what we want but aren’t too clear on exactly what that may be.
• For some strange reason most people specifically females get caught up in what I call fairytale love.
• My opinion, most folks get married for financial gain and great sex over love. This is not the case with every situation.
• When someone tells you that they don’t love you; believe them.
• If someone tells you that they love you; tell them to show you as well.
• The worst part is you not knowing if the other person truly loves you or if they are with you because you have “benefits”. People are very good at faking it until they make it.
• Being afraid to give your heart to someone is not the way anyone should live but being cautious is very necessary.
• Having a history with someone means nothing if that history is full of deceit, pain and misery.
• Don’t ever believe that love is supposed to hurt; if it does you are forcing something that is not meant to be.
• It’s not fair but who said life was? You may totally love someone with all your heart and they may just “like” you.

Fear? Who Me?

I believed that being afraid was never an option for me. Well,  good horror movies scare the heck out of me . 

Finally, I came to the conclusion that being a straight up punk, coward or whatever you call a person that allows themselves to be their worst enemy when it comes to attempting success is exactly who I am.

 Being afraid to fail is a huge obstacle for me and why should I care whose watching? Well, I care since people are the worst critics when you try and fail miserably. Developing a tough skin and an attitude that oozes I don’t give a rats arse what anyone thinks may give me enough cohunes to move forward. Ha!

 Frankly, the mere fact that my existence here on earth isn’t forever should be enough fuel to get me going eliminating all fear. However, it seems that ruining your credibility is a far more easily attained then building a positive reputation. It’s sort of like your credit score which takes days to trash to hell and years to rebuild.

 Fear is surely wrapped up tightly with procrastination which is the devil himself! If only I just dug in and took a chance rather than choosing to wait until the timing was right. Oh my!  The waiting game, shame on me, the biggest fluke ever like, when is the PERFECT time? However, there are some situations like wanting to make someone your girlfriend when she’s married where timing is of essence.  Divorce should occur first but who does that nowadays they just jump in the sheets.

 We are more willing to move forward with self-destructive actions and become an utter success. The time and energy we put into silly things that end up causing devastation to ourselves and others could be easily redirected towards more enlightening and positive quests. Oh well, human nature is a bust.