Learn to Cultivate Your Relationship…

There will be a multitude of situations in life that you will need to cultivate like a harvest. This includes relationships. We want this prefect ready to go relationship with a person that is not categorized as “work in progress”.  In fact, the person who desires this perfect relationship and man/woman to go along with it all is the one with the most issues. Most people want what they are not or can’t offer. 

This does not mean you welcome a person into your life that cheats, and abuses you on all levels. Please don’t ever believe that people will change just because of marriage. They will be the same person they were prior to getting married. Change will only come if they decide on their own to make that change. You can’t change a person it is ultimately their decision. You will hear people say ,  “She changed me” nope buddy you made that change on your own. You decide to change because you knew that you wold lose her if you didn’t. “He changed me,”  Nope lady you changed on your own because you realized you have a good thing going with him. 

Relationships are very similar to building a house. You must have a strong foundation or the infrastructure will collapse. You must maintain your relationships and implement upgrades and improvements along the way within. Ever notice how dedicated most are to their jobs? They are loyal to the employer, remained employed over the years, received promotions because of this! The same should apply to your relationship. Be loyal, dedicated, respect each other’s time, produce, don’t make unnecessary mistakes and I could go on. Your actions mean everything. Don’t show up for work or scream at your boss and see what happens next. You will be fired…Life is so short that you really need to know that the right person needs a little cultivating. 

Have a wonderful day and I wish you a successful and healthy relationship!

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Dating Games

When you are dating someone and you somehow come up with this verbal contract that you will not do this or that unfortunately that will not hold up in a court of law.

I am trying to figure out why people think they have the right to “own” you in a sense but never fully commit by either proposing or actually marrying you. I’ve heard many times that in order for you to move on to the next level you have to start somewhere. That’s fair however; do you really know for certain the other party is on the same page as you are?

Are they saying or doing “just enough” to appease you? Can I get a freaking promise ring or something?

They know exactly what to do to keep you dangling and your feelings grow deeper for them never knowing they are not really that into you. The sex is good they have your mind, have you coming back every time.

In reality, you are single and should be free to do what you please within reason and remaining as respectful as possible. Instead, we give our all when in fact the other party has no intention of ever fully committing which actually sucks when you think about it.

People will lie just to have two pieces of pie. They want to gamble and string you along until they decide who they want to settle down with if they ever do. You are either in this or not there is no in-between life is too short to play games.