Why Hide Something Beautiful?

Just when you think someone is your friend they prove otherwise. I must admit when I saw her post on Facebook it really hurt my little feelings.

Sometimes I can be overly emotional; however this is only when bamboozled into thinking you really care about me as a Human Being First than a friend.

For example; I post pictures of Timmie and myself on my page all the time. There are several posts that represent positive feedback not only about Timmie but about MEN being wonderful. Not all men are dogs or no good dead beat Fathers.

Funny I stumbled across a post that went against the “loving” activity on my page.
Her statement was valid however; not in my case at all. Just because your relationship/marriage was ruined as a result of social media does not mean that will happen to my relationship.
Only the strong survive who have REAL LOVE as the foundation of their relationship. Trust and loyalty means everything if you don’t have that you have nothing! Yes, we had to rebuild our trust now it’s solid as a ROCK!

There are just not enough positive things said about Black Men in general when it comes to relationships and being a parent.

I am beginning to think that if you are happy MANY people hate you and want you to be miserable with them. There are so many folks who lived a miserable life for as long as they can remember. But whose fault is that? Definitely not my fault you are miserable.

If you smile too much you are phony and don’t even think about being overly positive then you are annoying. Who in the heck came up with the statement “behind every smile is pain”? That is the most ridiculous thing ever! You better believe that if I am in “pain” I won’t crack a smile no way no how!
I just believe that being unhappy is a choice no matter the situation since it can always be much worse.

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Two Sides To Every Story

Rule #1 your family and friends love you so they will side with you. When you tell your side of the story of course they will be on your side 100%.
I have one friend that will not chime in with me and plays the devil’s advocate and I appreciate her very much.
She always tells me that it’s not exactly how I see it and helps me to see the bigger picture.
If the person you are sharing your issues with isn’t there to witness what actually happened you better believe lots were left out. We don’t mean to fabricate stories and blow them up but we do! Everything that you speak about is the truth but it’s not the entire truth.
It’s sort of like texting you can’t hear the tone of their voice, see facial expressions etc. you can only assume how they are feeling. If you and the partner you are talking about isn’t present to discuss issues with the individual you decide to speak to it will never be fair.
You will make that person you are discussing appear to be the worst person in the world.
There is nothing wrong with confiding but you must make sure the person you are speaking to can get the entire story out of you in order for them to make a fair assessment of the situation.

Hero?

***There is always a grey area when it comes to what I have written. Will there be cases when you should mind someone else’s business? Of course! That all depends on the severity of the situation and if someone’s life is at risk.**** Just be careful you don’t put yourself in harm’s way when you decide to play private detective or a good Samaritan.

You just found out something that was rather disturbing about someone and all of a sudden you feel compelled to tell them? Well, you really need to mind your business!

Even if you were part of the fiasco just shut your mouth please. Stop whatever it is and keep it moving. If whatever you found out does not directly affect you shut up!

“I really think she should know that he is cheating on her”. First, why is it any of your business? He’s your friend ok I get that part but the worst is when you have no affiliation with the person but you think they should know? Once again, just mind your business.

He’s your friend and you want to protect him, right? You tell him and then what? He will continue to see her because they already discussed having an open relationship…feeling dumb right now?

You are a person that feeds off of drama that is all. If you must be a blubber mouth please make sure your facts are solid as a rock and get ready to get the donkey poop smacked out of you if you bark up the wrong tree.

You see her out hugging on a guy and he even kisses her on the cheek as they walk away holding hands. It’s her cousin fool and they are not “kissing cousins” as in tongue all over the place! They are just very close and love each other as family.

Everything is not as it seems and you better just look the other way. Be more concerned about your folks cheating on you since that should be your only agenda.

Whatever is meant for them to know; they will find out without you poking your nose in their relationship. If the situation occurred several months ago or even years why the heck are you divulging the information now? You are a rat bringing old rotten cheese and love drama.

My name is Patrice and I don’t know anything unless it is about me. I have a life of my own.

Mind your darn business and you shall see how much happier you will become. So busy cleaning other folk’s back yard that you have maggots in yours.

Don’t Be Angry…

The very man/woman you are pouring your heart out to with hopes they can shed some light on your relationship woes is the very one who is envious of what you have. Just go talk to granny or pops and get some old school advice. Let’s hope they are not worse than your imposter friends.

When you tell someone about issues you are having in your relationship then wake up the next morning and it’s all over the 8 o’clock news don’t be angry. Learn to be more selective with the company you keep and whom you share your personal life with.

Remember that every time you decide to share your personal life you are taking a risk of that person having diarrhea of the mouth. People will pretend to care about you just to get close and destroy you.

I will never understand why someone would waste their time and energy trying to make someone miserable other than it has to be a sickness. I’d rather blog, work out or read a book before I spend my time hating on someone. Serioiusly? GET A LIFE!

Some folks can’t hold water. Right after you tell them something ten other folks will know every detail you shared with big mouth. In this world you basically can’t trust anyone but who wants to live life that way? This is exactly why you look for red flags!
People will show you their true character over time.

If your so-called friend tells you something that another person said about you that was negative you really don’t want to tell them a darn thing about your personal life.

I’ve had a female tell me that some chick came to her and had all this negative mess to say about me and she listened. The winch had the nerve to chime in with the heifer.
To make matters worse she in some way thought that her telling me that she agreed with the hater chick made her noble. #Blown.com

I was thinking in my head this b*tch is fake and phony and I wish she would leave me the heck alone. Both she and that hating chick can go kick rocks who by the way smiles in my face like nothing was ever said. Whoa!

Real women come directly to you when they have a problem they feel needs to be brought to your attention not gossip to others!

These are the types of people you never tell your business to no matter how much you want them to be your friend they are NOT.

Again, don’t be angry when the entire neighborhood knows your life story because you decided to share it with a snake.

Straight from The Heart, Patrice McCullough

How Important Is Being Accepted Socially?

No matter how much you smile or how much you love there will always be someone who will not accept you.

When you base your life on the acceptance of others just for the sake of fitting in you set yourself up for failure emotionally. There are some sick unhappy people who will pick you apart and try to find everything negative about you they can…stay away from those types!

We all have some bad in us but our goal should be to have the good outweigh the bad.
We can all learn patience and how to be gracefully insulted while we seek understanding when communicating with someone who may offend us. We don’t have to accept anyone into our circle but you should respect who they are and not speak foully about them which by the way makes you far worse.

There are many people who morph into someone they are not just so they can simply “fit in” losing their true selves. If you are outspoken and rough around the edges that is who you are and if people can’t embrace your realness that is something they have to deal with.

You will never know a person’s journey and what shaped them into who they are today so before you reject someone try to accept them for who they are most importantly understand that you are not perfect as well.

It takes all kinds of personalities to make the world a more exciting place to live!
When it’s all said and done…I would rather be rejected for being me than accepted for pretending to be someone I am not.

Beware of the Gossip Girl/Man

Let’s face it…sometimes you need someone to talk to when you are going through rough periods in your life…however; who you choose to discuss your life with can make matters worse.

Never talk about your relationship issues with your associates/friends unless you want them sharing your business with the world. They pretend to care while listening to your deepest secrets drip from your lips. BEWARE!

 Most people want what you have and have no idea that what you have isn’t all that great but you know how to make it work. In some cases your woman/man may be all that and a bag of chips but they don’t need to be told let his/her actions show.

 Use my blog to vent your relationship issues rather than a gossiping hater woman/man. You remain anonymous and never have to worry about haters trying to step into your shoes if you decide to move on or steal what you have.

 In reality the only person you can trust is yourself (I hope) and God. It’s some sick folks out here that will make it their goal to get close to you only to destroy you.

Miserable people are so dead inside that trying to cause chaos in another person’s life brings them EXTREME pleasure.

 

STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART, PATRICE

You Never Met Me But You Don’t Like Me?

There are some folks that do everything in their power to make you not like them.

There have been people that I actually liked but for whatever reason they despised me.
If I never met you how in the world can I determine that I don’t like you?

Well, it’s done to me all the dang time. They see me and judge me without getting to know who I am and they don’t like me? Honestly, who cares besides they don’t pay my bills, feed me nor provide clothing? But it really puzzles me about how they determined that they aren’t fond of me without ever becoming acquainted. Hearsay plays a huge part most of the time. If you allow someone else to help you form an opinion about another person you never met you are a complete idiot.

In some cases the biased opinion of someone may be indeed true! However, everyone deserves a fair chance before you claim you don’t like someone. “I don’t like that bytch, I don’t know why, I just don’t” heard that many times and you know what that’s one sick puppy who says something so silly.

Why would you want enemies on purpose? When you ignore them and continue to be who you are never allowing them to make you act out of character is not an easy tasks sometimes.

You really want to curse them out but you know that ladies shouldn’t curse says Daddy :). You know that two wrongs don’t make a right says Grandma. Kill them with kindness says Mommy. Turn the other cheek says Jesus.

You must understand that people who are miserable and unhappy with themselves find some sort of satisfaction in irritating, upsetting others and gossiping.

Feel sorry for them and most importantly pray for them. Continue to be the Happy You!