Sometimes I believe that you can overthink not just situations but LIFE itself…Here comes the worry monster and it just gobbles up all your happiness.
Lately, I have also noticed that people in general focus on the things they have absolutely no power over more often than not.
The things we can change we neglect to actually take action with procrastination being the devil…instead we focus on things that have already happened that we can’t reverse rather than the things we have the power to change.
I am totally guilty of worrying about things that will be no matter how much I may wish or hope it away.
My focus is being proactive not reactive to LIFE…this is easier said than done without a doubt.
Naturally, there are some situations that will only allow you to be reactive but this only means you weren’t proactive.
If someone slaps you in the face more than likely you saw it coming but instead of removing yourself from harm’s way (proactive) you stay and get slapped therefore you return the favor (reactive).
Life is the same way…but we chose to put the blinders on then look at adversity like a deer’s eyes illuminated by blinding headlights.
None of us have a crystal ball to help us along the way however there are red flags and major indicators that we overlook because we don’t want to accept the possible outcome.
Instead of dwelling on things we can’t change let’s focus on what’s next and the things we can change!
You will soon find that your stress level will be almost non-existent….Life is too short to get stuck in a rut we have to keep it moving. People will not only see “happy” on your face they will smell it a mile away and hate you for it….because they too want to be happy just like you!
No matter how much you smile or how much you love there will always be someone who will not accept you.
When you base your life on the acceptance of others just for the sake of fitting in you set yourself up for failure emotionally. There are some sick unhappy people who will pick you apart and try to find everything negative about you they can…stay away from those types!
We all have some bad in us but our goal should be to have the good outweigh the bad.
We can all learn patience and how to be gracefully insulted while we seek understanding when communicating with someone who may offend us. We don’t have to accept anyone into our circle but you should respect who they are and not speak foully about them which by the way makes you far worse.
There are many people who morph into someone they are not just so they can simply “fit in” losing their true selves. If you are outspoken and rough around the edges that is who you are and if people can’t embrace your realness that is something they have to deal with.
You will never know a person’s journey and what shaped them into who they are today so before you reject someone try to accept them for who they are most importantly understand that you are not perfect as well.
It takes all kinds of personalities to make the world a more exciting place to live!
When it’s all said and done…I would rather be rejected for being me than accepted for pretending to be someone I am not.
Never blame anyone for your unhappiness. People only do what you “allow” them to do. Take responsibility for the role you play in any relationship. The longer you stay in an unhealthy relationship the less chance you have of EVER having a healthy relationship with anyone.
You will continue to have flash backs and blame everyone that comes into your life for something that you allowed another person to do to you.
We all have a threshold when it comes to your level of tolerance but you have to know what that threshold is.
Never blame anyone for your unhappiness; I am certain you know where the door is.
Straight from The Heart, Patrice ❤
When you know for certain not by what you were told that a person hates you for no apparent reason or for something you did to them BUT you have no idea what you have done…at the very least, that person should tell you what you did or better yet concentrate on loving themselves then they won’t have time nor the desire to hate anyone else. Before you decide to practice hate look in the mirror first. I wanted to hate someone for telling lies about me or breaking my heart. I was more hurt then anything.
I forgave them all and understood that people who hate and people who hurt others have not yet discovered love.