Just when you think someone is your friend they prove otherwise. I must admit when I saw her post on Facebook it really hurt my little feelings.
Sometimes I can be overly emotional; however this is only when bamboozled into thinking you really care about me as a Human Being First than a friend.
For example; I post pictures of Timmie and myself on my page all the time. There are several posts that represent positive feedback not only about Timmie but about MEN being wonderful. Not all men are dogs or no good dead beat Fathers.
Funny I stumbled across a post that went against the “loving” activity on my page.
Her statement was valid however; not in my case at all. Just because your relationship/marriage was ruined as a result of social media does not mean that will happen to my relationship.
Only the strong survive who have REAL LOVE as the foundation of their relationship. Trust and loyalty means everything if you don’t have that you have nothing! Yes, we had to rebuild our trust now it’s solid as a ROCK!
There are just not enough positive things said about Black Men in general when it comes to relationships and being a parent.
I am beginning to think that if you are happy MANY people hate you and want you to be miserable with them. There are so many folks who lived a miserable life for as long as they can remember. But whose fault is that? Definitely not my fault you are miserable.
If you smile too much you are phony and don’t even think about being overly positive then you are annoying. Who in the heck came up with the statement “behind every smile is pain”? That is the most ridiculous thing ever! You better believe that if I am in “pain” I won’t crack a smile no way no how!
I just believe that being unhappy is a choice no matter the situation since it can always be much worse.
Sometimes I believe that you can overthink not just situations but LIFE itself…Here comes the worry monster and it just gobbles up all your happiness.
Lately, I have also noticed that people in general focus on the things they have absolutely no power over more often than not.
The things we can change we neglect to actually take action with procrastination being the devil…instead we focus on things that have already happened that we can’t reverse rather than the things we have the power to change.
I am totally guilty of worrying about things that will be no matter how much I may wish or hope it away.
My focus is being proactive not reactive to LIFE…this is easier said than done without a doubt.
Naturally, there are some situations that will only allow you to be reactive but this only means you weren’t proactive.
If someone slaps you in the face more than likely you saw it coming but instead of removing yourself from harm’s way (proactive) you stay and get slapped therefore you return the favor (reactive).
Life is the same way…but we chose to put the blinders on then look at adversity like a deer’s eyes illuminated by blinding headlights.
None of us have a crystal ball to help us along the way however there are red flags and major indicators that we overlook because we don’t want to accept the possible outcome.
Instead of dwelling on things we can’t change let’s focus on what’s next and the things we can change!
You will soon find that your stress level will be almost non-existent….Life is too short to get stuck in a rut we have to keep it moving. People will not only see “happy” on your face they will smell it a mile away and hate you for it….because they too want to be happy just like you!
Maybe if people knew my struggle and what I had to endure in my life they would understand who I have become.
Maybe if people knew my struggle they would understand why I don’t care what they think about me.
It’s not that my heart doesn’t care it’s my struggle that made me numb to hurtful slurs and attempts to deface my character.
If I told them they would use my past against me when I hold my head too high.
When I smile they would use my past to make me cry.
My struggle started from the womb up until now and I refuse to bow down to anyone who can’t accept who I have become.
I am living proof that there is a higher power.
After all the hurtful things that were done and said to me over the years I am still smiling and giving him praise for having my back 10000000000%
Jesus is all I need and the only way I will bow down.
All the others who seek me out to try and destroy me FALL BACK!
When a person is ANGRY and tries everything in their power to cause you harm.
Remember…Behind all the hate and anger is a mountain of hurt.
Even if you are directly connected to the pain they are feeling; once you ask for their forgiveness you have done your job. If they can’t accept your apology then they have to answer to a higher power.
Most of the time you may not have anything to do with their hurt but for some reason they target you because they are not mature enough to deal with the “SOURCE” of their anger.
This is not to excuse their behavior; I am asking you to just understand that they have some serious issues. It’s even worse when the anger is over some man/woman that does not want anything else to do with them…but because they are with you it’s a thorn in their backside. Some folks don’t know how to let go!
The battle is not with you it’s within them…
Don’t feed the fire just pray for them and leave it alone.
Do not allow them to suck your happy spirit dry!
Let’s face it…sometimes you need someone to talk to when you are going through rough periods in your life…however; who you choose to discuss your life with can make matters worse.
Never talk about your relationship issues with your associates/friends unless you want them sharing your business with the world. They pretend to care while listening to your deepest secrets drip from your lips. BEWARE!
Most people want what you have and have no idea that what you have isn’t all that great but you know how to make it work. In some cases your woman/man may be all that and a bag of chips but they don’t need to be told let his/her actions show.
Use my blog to vent your relationship issues rather than a gossiping hater woman/man. You remain anonymous and never have to worry about haters trying to step into your shoes if you decide to move on or steal what you have.
In reality the only person you can trust is yourself (I hope) and God. It’s some sick folks out here that will make it their goal to get close to you only to destroy you.
Miserable people are so dead inside that trying to cause chaos in another person’s life brings them EXTREME pleasure.
STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART, PATRICE
Why do we spend so much time and energy trying to keep a person that does not want to be kept? When someone else comes along and they so call cheat; you are so devastated and for what reason?
First of all, when you are in a relationship and you are not married nor engaged you can pretty much do what the heck you want to.
Of course, you may have a verbal contract/agreement that you two are to be monogamous but how long do you expect that to stay in effect?
People will see who they want to see whether it’s in your face or behind your back so get over it…Funny how “YOU NEVER EXISTED” when they met this “person” so they could get what they wanted.
They never wanted you or you would have existed and nothing would have occurred between this “person”.
Don’t ever allow someone to have so much control over your life that you become miserable and try to attack folks that had no idea you EVER EXISTED.
Be upset with the person who knew you existed…
There are some folks that do everything in their power to make you not like them.
There have been people that I actually liked but for whatever reason they despised me.
If I never met you how in the world can I determine that I don’t like you?
Well, it’s done to me all the dang time. They see me and judge me without getting to know who I am and they don’t like me? Honestly, who cares besides they don’t pay my bills, feed me nor provide clothing? But it really puzzles me about how they determined that they aren’t fond of me without ever becoming acquainted. Hearsay plays a huge part most of the time. If you allow someone else to help you form an opinion about another person you never met you are a complete idiot.
In some cases the biased opinion of someone may be indeed true! However, everyone deserves a fair chance before you claim you don’t like someone. “I don’t like that bytch, I don’t know why, I just don’t” heard that many times and you know what that’s one sick puppy who says something so silly.
Why would you want enemies on purpose? When you ignore them and continue to be who you are never allowing them to make you act out of character is not an easy tasks sometimes.
You really want to curse them out but you know that ladies shouldn’t curse says Daddy :). You know that two wrongs don’t make a right says Grandma. Kill them with kindness says Mommy. Turn the other cheek says Jesus.
You must understand that people who are miserable and unhappy with themselves find some sort of satisfaction in irritating, upsetting others and gossiping.
Feel sorry for them and most importantly pray for them. Continue to be the Happy You!