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Why Hide Something Beautiful?

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Just when you think someone is your friend they prove otherwise. I must admit when I saw her post on Facebook it really hurt my little feelings.

Sometimes I can be overly emotional; however this is only when bamboozled into thinking you really care about me as a Human Being First than a friend.

For example; I post pictures of Timmie and myself on my page all the time. There are several posts that represent positive feedback not only about Timmie but about MEN being wonderful. Not all men are dogs or no good dead beat Fathers.

Funny I stumbled across a post that went against the “loving” activity on my page.
Her statement was valid however; not in my case at all. Just because your relationship/marriage was ruined as a result of social media does not mean that will happen to my relationship.
Only the strong survive who have REAL LOVE as the foundation of their relationship. Trust and loyalty means everything if you don’t have that you have nothing! Yes, we had to rebuild our trust now it’s solid as a ROCK!

There are just not enough positive things said about Black Men in general when it comes to relationships and being a parent.

I am beginning to think that if you are happy MANY people hate you and want you to be miserable with them. There are so many folks who lived a miserable life for as long as they can remember. But whose fault is that? Definitely not my fault you are miserable.

If you smile too much you are phony and don’t even think about being overly positive then you are annoying. Who in the heck came up with the statement “behind every smile is pain”? That is the most ridiculous thing ever! You better believe that if I am in “pain” I won’t crack a smile no way no how!
I just believe that being unhappy is a choice no matter the situation since it can always be much worse.

When GOD says YES…you already know!

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Whatever your religious system is you will not be judged by me.
I am moving towards living a life that is more pleasing to God. The closer I get it seems things become more difficult. On the other hand, I see so many blessings flow from the heavens and favor is shown towards me.

This does not mean I will go around throwing bibles at people trying to spread the word. But if you want to listen willingly to my story and how my life was saved so many times that would be a wonderful thing.
My story is not for you to gossip to others about what I chose to share since it would be my testimony not “putting my business in the streets”. The only way you would really know my journey and come to realize that the only reason why I am alive today is because of JESUS is from my story.
I don’t have to be PERFECT! I may curse and ask to be forgiven immediately after. I still have thoughts that are not pleasing to God and I ask him to forgive me for sinful thoughts alone as well.

I have done things that were awful and still asking for forgiveness just to make sure he heard me.
Actions and a thought can be sins.

The most beautiful thing about Jesus is he sees my heart and loves me unconditionally and this is the best feeling in the world. I know that I am doing something right when so many form against me and try to destroy my very existence and FAIL MISERABLY.
I have been kissed on the cheek. I have been hugged. I have been told “I love you” when that was my enemy saying “I hate you” and giving me the kiss of death. But I wanted to believe they loved me because I love them.

If you only knew how low people have stooped to make me look “BAD”. Who does that but the devil’s helpers? They tried to ruin my future with my soon husband to be…they actually contacted him! They wanted so badly for us to stay apart…sorry you LOST…..When every soul on this earth shouts NO simultaneously and GOD says YES…you already know!

Bitter or Sweet?

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As I reflect on my life there is a new found understanding.
I have no room for senseless mistakes. I have no time to ignore the visions that are given to me as a warning to take a right turn instead of a left.
What if you were diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and only had a few months to live?

WE have to learn to live to be happy not live to struggle with emotions knowing a person isn’t truly for us if they are against us.

Could you honestly say, “Well, God here I come and thank you for blessing me with such a wonderful life”?
Why do we always make excuses for other people treating us bad when there is someone we rejected that will treat us like royalty?
Could you thank your mate for giving you time with them that was filled with love and happiness?

Yes, relationships have ups and downs but not to the point that your spirit is broken and you feel empty.

Love is filled with tears of joy not pain and don’t let anyone try to convince you otherwise!

Question

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Hello Followers,

I want to take a moment to thank you all for your support. Your comments and taking time out of your busy day to read my blog does not go unnoticed. It actually warms my soul to know you are interested in what Patrice thinks. Thank you…Ok! I have questions for you…please respond your thoughts matter to me.

I am still trying to figure out something that I already know. Well, at least I think I know the answer and could be totally wrong.

(Question #1) Is it possible to have problem-free relationship? Of course, most would say “Every relationship has problems!” Then you will have some that will say, “It depends on the couple and how they relate”.

There are actually couples who NEVER argue! (Question #2) What exactly are tolerable issues and what aren’t?

Followers I really would like to hear from you.

Love,
Patrice

Don’t Be Angry…

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The very man/woman you are pouring your heart out to with hopes they can shed some light on your relationship woes is the very one who is envious of what you have. Just go talk to granny or pops and get some old school advice. Let’s hope they are not worse than your imposter friends.

When you tell someone about issues you are having in your relationship then wake up the next morning and it’s all over the 8 o’clock news don’t be angry. Learn to be more selective with the company you keep and whom you share your personal life with.

Remember that every time you decide to share your personal life you are taking a risk of that person having diarrhea of the mouth. People will pretend to care about you just to get close and destroy you.

I will never understand why someone would waste their time and energy trying to make someone miserable other than it has to be a sickness. I’d rather blog, work out or read a book before I spend my time hating on someone. Serioiusly? GET A LIFE!

Some folks can’t hold water. Right after you tell them something ten other folks will know every detail you shared with big mouth. In this world you basically can’t trust anyone but who wants to live life that way? This is exactly why you look for red flags!
People will show you their true character over time.

If your so-called friend tells you something that another person said about you that was negative you really don’t want to tell them a darn thing about your personal life.

I’ve had a female tell me that some chick came to her and had all this negative mess to say about me and she listened. The winch had the nerve to chime in with the heifer.
To make matters worse she in some way thought that her telling me that she agreed with the hater chick made her noble. #Blown.com

I was thinking in my head this b*tch is fake and phony and I wish she would leave me the heck alone. Both she and that hating chick can go kick rocks who by the way smiles in my face like nothing was ever said. Whoa!

Real women come directly to you when they have a problem they feel needs to be brought to your attention not gossip to others!

These are the types of people you never tell your business to no matter how much you want them to be your friend they are NOT.

Again, don’t be angry when the entire neighborhood knows your life story because you decided to share it with a snake.

Straight from The Heart, Patrice McCullough

Random Thoughts…

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It’s difficult to not equate wealth with success in a world driven by capitalism,how much money you have in the bank,how big your house is and how fancy your car is.

No wonder so many have problems having and keeping a healthy relationship when all we think about is where our next buck is coming from and where it has to go.

That’s exactly why it’s so important to have someone willing to build with you and not take; always having their hands out begging for your hard earned money. Even if you have it does not mean you want to give it away. When you have two people who support each other in many ways especially financially it really alleviates stress.

The same dedication a person gives their employer when they have a strong work ethic should be similar when you are in a relationship with your partner.

We work hard for everything and everyone but our relationship! We become best friends with others when our best friend should be our partner. I often notice that the things a person did to win someone over stops. But you expect them to stick around and for what? You basically baited them in with what you are not and will never be.

Betrayal from the start is not good for any new blossoming love. People size you up just so they can do and say the right things to get you where they want you then BAM! People can be so phony and hardly know who they really are themselves. For some, life is a big stage where they play many characters depending on the situation. I’ve heard so many people say to me “I really thought I knew her/him”. Well, buddy you just never know what you are really dealing with all you can do is hope for the best.

Straight from The Heart, Patrice McCullough

Single for Life

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What exactly makes a person decide they want to be single for life? I can think of lots of things but my reasons would be different from yours or maybe not?
It all boils down to being sick of being sick and tired of the same bulls*t over and over and overrrrr again! I swear some folks act like they have 9 lives even after wasting 8 of those lives.

I have found that you can tell someone that you are not happy and they will try to force you to be with them; it’s clearly insane. If someone tells me they are not happy and want to bounce; I will kindly show them where the door is with no attitude…thank you for not wasting any more of OUR time. It was somewhat nice while it lasted…have a nice life.
No matter what you say to yourself being alone is no fun; an unhealthy relationship is by far not the better option.
This really gets confusing sometimes for so many of us!

It seems that every relationship comes with its own set of issues that we choose to either deal with or run from. What I find that is hilarious is we end up dealing with same issues with a different person with a variance of severity. Then we must wonder if those problems are in fact manifesting within us and not the other person. Is it possible that we could be the problem? Indeed but not all the darn time…this is when a self-evaluation is needed.

My cousin and I were driving in her car yesterday after having dinner. She actually said something to me that at that particular time peaked my interest making total sense. Have you ever said to someone or to yourself “If this does not work,I am done”?

Well, my cousin told me that it’s ridiculous when all you need is time to get your mind right and allow your heart to heal. You never know if you will meet the love of your life when you least expect it. Don’t shut the possibilities out by throwing up a brick wall that reads “DO NOT ENTER”.
We let so many ships sail by because we are hurt or allowed someone to waste our time that was never meant for us to be with in the first place. Please stop asking, “How do I know if they are the right person?” When you know the very moment you meet them unless you are detached from reality. Wake up, look and listen…observation is critical. Listen to half of what is being verbally communicated and all of what is VISABLE.

Sometimes I wonder if being single something that was predestined for me or whether meeting someone that possess 90% of my character traits and defects (LOL) would make a huge difference.
If I can meet someone that is not the opposite of me that may work! We would understand each other therefore knowing what the next move would be if that makes any sense at all.
We all are on a quest to find LOVE…the type of love that last forever and doesn’t HURT.

Straight from My Heart, Patrice

Random Thoughts…

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Once you accept that pain and disappointment has to be a part of your life you have built a foundation that will not allow you to be happy ever.

There is nothing wrong with having expectations but you must realize that most of the time people won’t live up to those unrealistic expectations that you feel are totally achievable and fair.
What it actually is, we want that person to be like “us” to do things the way we would like them to be done and that is wrong! It’s no better than forcing your religious beliefs on people. You must allow others to be who they are and adjusting to you will take time. You can only hope that the person you are with is open and can observe tension when it occurs in the relationship.

Pain associated with life is inevitable but it’s how you recover from that pain you will come out stronger or more broken.

Have you ever seen someone smiling during an argument or burst out into laughter during conflict? In your opinion you may perceive them as being crazy but realistically they saw the confrontation coming and have been down the road many times before. We have experienced the same stressors many times but tend to react negatively instead of learning from the other encounters and expecting a different outcome.

Stress kills and there is no way around the chemical effects that occur within your body however you can subside those detrimental effects by keeping stressors to a minimum. Your outlook and how you deal with any stressful situation will determine a positive or negative outcome internally and externally.

Straight from The Heart, Patrice (Patty Cakes!)

Decisions Can Be SCARY!

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All the feedback in the world will never save you from your FATE!

But oh my do I have to be the one responsible for the outcome? Yep!

Help! Help! I don’t know what I should do. I pray day and night waiting for something somehow to be revealed. I am still waiting…Ok, so I should be still, quiet in a dark room, light incense and Meditate ?

I’ve tried doing handstands with my legs holding me up on the wall thinking maybe I need more blood rushed to my brain. Go figure! The things I will do when desperate for answers…

Decisions can change the entire course of your life for the best or worse. Although, choices must be made throughout life both big and small; sometimes we really want to go hide and hope that somehow magically things will work out but it won’t.

You stress yourself out wondering what you should do afraid of the outcome later as a result of your decision. The worse is when you say to yourself “I made the wrong choice”. Oh well, learning sucks but we have to experience the good and the bad.

No matter what decision you make the best part is you were strong enough to “decide” and not let fear crush your growth never knowing what could have been.

Things that are meant to be are “full circle”.  Set yourself free through finally making the very choice you are afraid to make.

Do I Really Know You?

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How well do you really know the people you are supposed to be so close to?
Is it silly to ask things like what’s your favorite ice cream?
I have noticed by pure observation and personal experiences; that those unknown things about a person become apparent over time and remembered only if they are truly interested or intrigued by you. I’ve often heard folks say shacking up is a bad idea but how else can you truly know if you can live under the same roof without killing (not literally) each other before marriage if you don’t “shack” up?
Do you know what makes them tick, their favorite color or experiences that happened to them that shaped them into the person they are today?
What is it that caused you to bond with this person that you can’t exactly put your finger on? I strongly believe that some friendships and sexual relationships are meant to be as we take our journey through life.
Some of those relationships whether it is sexual or platonic can be hurtful learning experiences or can leave a lasting positive impression on our life forever.
I am not judging anyone you can do whatever you want with your hello kitty and beans and frank but…
The worst thing you can do and it happens every day is to sleep with someone and you don’t know their last name or worse their REAL first name. Get out of the fast lane; it can destroy your life!
Take time out to get to know someone before you falsely believe they are your BFF or someone you can trust or have “casual’ sex with. Many times people get married or have a child with someone only to find out later that they can’t stand to breathe the same air standing in the same room together. Getting to really know someone can take a lifetime but that all depends on how much they are willing to open up to you.
I am an open book, what you see is what you get and there is nothing I have to hide.
With some folks you have to wait until the truth about who they are somehow reveals itself to you. If you are lucky a red flag will appear with warning sirens or you will listen to that gut feeling telling you something isn’t right.
Then you have folks that are beyond experts when it comes to keeping a façade going.
Keep your eyes wide open, leave a small opening, (not too big) to your heart and use your brain!
Being on defense is not a way to live your life. When approaching life daily be smart about it and learn from past experiences. Life is like a game; you win some and you will lose a lot. When you lose dust yourself off and move on…life is short so let’s make it SWEET!