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When GOD says YES…you already know!

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Whatever your religious system is you will not be judged by me.
I am moving towards living a life that is more pleasing to God. The closer I get it seems things become more difficult. On the other hand, I see so many blessings flow from the heavens and favor is shown towards me.

This does not mean I will go around throwing bibles at people trying to spread the word. But if you want to listen willingly to my story and how my life was saved so many times that would be a wonderful thing.
My story is not for you to gossip to others about what I chose to share since it would be my testimony not “putting my business in the streets”. The only way you would really know my journey and come to realize that the only reason why I am alive today is because of JESUS is from my story.
I don’t have to be PERFECT! I may curse and ask to be forgiven immediately after. I still have thoughts that are not pleasing to God and I ask him to forgive me for sinful thoughts alone as well.

I have done things that were awful and still asking for forgiveness just to make sure he heard me.
Actions and a thought can be sins.

The most beautiful thing about Jesus is he sees my heart and loves me unconditionally and this is the best feeling in the world. I know that I am doing something right when so many form against me and try to destroy my very existence and FAIL MISERABLY.
I have been kissed on the cheek. I have been hugged. I have been told “I love you” when that was my enemy saying “I hate you” and giving me the kiss of death. But I wanted to believe they loved me because I love them.

If you only knew how low people have stooped to make me look “BAD”. Who does that but the devil’s helpers? They tried to ruin my future with my soon husband to be…they actually contacted him! They wanted so badly for us to stay apart…sorry you LOST…..When every soul on this earth shouts NO simultaneously and GOD says YES…you already know!

Hurt People

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Good morning!

Thanks to everyone that actually took the time to read my blog.

Your support is appreciated😄
Some of the comments and especially the emails received brought tears to my eyes…

I’ve read some emails and actually broke down crying uncontrollably because I never knew there were so many hurt people.

Knowing that my words changed lives and encouraged them to not commit suicide is a feeling that can’t be described.

I’ve respected their privacy and they trusted me enough to share what was eating them alive.

All I can say is we must stop hurting people it’s really bad guys. Stick to the golden rule treat others like you would want to be treated.

You’d be surprised of how fragile some folks are who pretend to be strong. I can’t believe the mean things people do to each other not caring about anyone but themselves.

I’ve become a better person as a result of the many emails received realizing that I need to change.

I love everyone even those who hate my guts and did me wrong. To hate someone just isn’t part of my DNA.

Call me silly but hate is a strong emotion that eats at your spirit like cancer!!!

We have to care about how we treat others starting today!

Bitter or Sweet?

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As I reflect on my life there is a new found understanding.
I have no room for senseless mistakes. I have no time to ignore the visions that are given to me as a warning to take a right turn instead of a left.
What if you were diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and only had a few months to live?

WE have to learn to live to be happy not live to struggle with emotions knowing a person isn’t truly for us if they are against us.

Could you honestly say, “Well, God here I come and thank you for blessing me with such a wonderful life”?
Why do we always make excuses for other people treating us bad when there is someone we rejected that will treat us like royalty?
Could you thank your mate for giving you time with them that was filled with love and happiness?

Yes, relationships have ups and downs but not to the point that your spirit is broken and you feel empty.

Love is filled with tears of joy not pain and don’t let anyone try to convince you otherwise!

Doing too Much?

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Can you want something so much that the universe makes sure you never receive it?

It’s not exactly what we want that takes precedence it is what we need that is far more beneficial to our overall well-being. We always want what we can’t have or what’s not good for us. I am a firm believer that you should not have to work hard to make a relationship work.

Either it works or it doesn’t… there isn’t any in-between. When you have one person pulling in a different direction while you relentlessly try to pull them back towards you; it becomes mentally exhausting.

Love should come effortlessly. This is my humble opinion.

Hero?

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***There is always a grey area when it comes to what I have written. Will there be cases when you should mind someone else’s business? Of course! That all depends on the severity of the situation and if someone’s life is at risk.**** Just be careful you don’t put yourself in harm’s way when you decide to play private detective or a good Samaritan.

You just found out something that was rather disturbing about someone and all of a sudden you feel compelled to tell them? Well, you really need to mind your business!

Even if you were part of the fiasco just shut your mouth please. Stop whatever it is and keep it moving. If whatever you found out does not directly affect you shut up!

“I really think she should know that he is cheating on her”. First, why is it any of your business? He’s your friend ok I get that part but the worst is when you have no affiliation with the person but you think they should know? Once again, just mind your business.

He’s your friend and you want to protect him, right? You tell him and then what? He will continue to see her because they already discussed having an open relationship…feeling dumb right now?

You are a person that feeds off of drama that is all. If you must be a blubber mouth please make sure your facts are solid as a rock and get ready to get the donkey poop smacked out of you if you bark up the wrong tree.

You see her out hugging on a guy and he even kisses her on the cheek as they walk away holding hands. It’s her cousin fool and they are not “kissing cousins” as in tongue all over the place! They are just very close and love each other as family.

Everything is not as it seems and you better just look the other way. Be more concerned about your folks cheating on you since that should be your only agenda.

Whatever is meant for them to know; they will find out without you poking your nose in their relationship. If the situation occurred several months ago or even years why the heck are you divulging the information now? You are a rat bringing old rotten cheese and love drama.

My name is Patrice and I don’t know anything unless it is about me. I have a life of my own.

Mind your darn business and you shall see how much happier you will become. So busy cleaning other folk’s back yard that you have maggots in yours.

Random Thoughts…

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It’s difficult to not equate wealth with success in a world driven by capitalism,how much money you have in the bank,how big your house is and how fancy your car is.

No wonder so many have problems having and keeping a healthy relationship when all we think about is where our next buck is coming from and where it has to go.

That’s exactly why it’s so important to have someone willing to build with you and not take; always having their hands out begging for your hard earned money. Even if you have it does not mean you want to give it away. When you have two people who support each other in many ways especially financially it really alleviates stress.

The same dedication a person gives their employer when they have a strong work ethic should be similar when you are in a relationship with your partner.

We work hard for everything and everyone but our relationship! We become best friends with others when our best friend should be our partner. I often notice that the things a person did to win someone over stops. But you expect them to stick around and for what? You basically baited them in with what you are not and will never be.

Betrayal from the start is not good for any new blossoming love. People size you up just so they can do and say the right things to get you where they want you then BAM! People can be so phony and hardly know who they really are themselves. For some, life is a big stage where they play many characters depending on the situation. I’ve heard so many people say to me “I really thought I knew her/him”. Well, buddy you just never know what you are really dealing with all you can do is hope for the best.

Straight from The Heart, Patrice McCullough

Single for Life

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What exactly makes a person decide they want to be single for life? I can think of lots of things but my reasons would be different from yours or maybe not?
It all boils down to being sick of being sick and tired of the same bulls*t over and over and overrrrr again! I swear some folks act like they have 9 lives even after wasting 8 of those lives.

I have found that you can tell someone that you are not happy and they will try to force you to be with them; it’s clearly insane. If someone tells me they are not happy and want to bounce; I will kindly show them where the door is with no attitude…thank you for not wasting any more of OUR time. It was somewhat nice while it lasted…have a nice life.
No matter what you say to yourself being alone is no fun; an unhealthy relationship is by far not the better option.
This really gets confusing sometimes for so many of us!

It seems that every relationship comes with its own set of issues that we choose to either deal with or run from. What I find that is hilarious is we end up dealing with same issues with a different person with a variance of severity. Then we must wonder if those problems are in fact manifesting within us and not the other person. Is it possible that we could be the problem? Indeed but not all the darn time…this is when a self-evaluation is needed.

My cousin and I were driving in her car yesterday after having dinner. She actually said something to me that at that particular time peaked my interest making total sense. Have you ever said to someone or to yourself “If this does not work,I am done”?

Well, my cousin told me that it’s ridiculous when all you need is time to get your mind right and allow your heart to heal. You never know if you will meet the love of your life when you least expect it. Don’t shut the possibilities out by throwing up a brick wall that reads “DO NOT ENTER”.
We let so many ships sail by because we are hurt or allowed someone to waste our time that was never meant for us to be with in the first place. Please stop asking, “How do I know if they are the right person?” When you know the very moment you meet them unless you are detached from reality. Wake up, look and listen…observation is critical. Listen to half of what is being verbally communicated and all of what is VISABLE.

Sometimes I wonder if being single something that was predestined for me or whether meeting someone that possess 90% of my character traits and defects (LOL) would make a huge difference.
If I can meet someone that is not the opposite of me that may work! We would understand each other therefore knowing what the next move would be if that makes any sense at all.
We all are on a quest to find LOVE…the type of love that last forever and doesn’t HURT.

Straight from My Heart, Patrice

Actions

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It seems easier said than done but you must not let the mishaps of life keep you down.

It is normal to feel a certain kind of way when someone does something to you the first time that you have no control over. But when you keep allowing people to keep doing the same things to you that hurt or makes you angry you can’t blame anyone but yourself.

People will do only what you “continue” to allow them to do. People “show” you how they really feel about you although their words say the exact opposite. Pay attention to actions more than the lies they tell you to keep you on a string.

Some folks really believe that they want to be with you because they speak it but they don’t show it. Don’t waste your life with someone that disrespects you when there is someone out there that will love you like you deserve to be loved. It is far better to be alone (single) than with a person that hurts you and breaks your heart everyday.

Random Thoughts #2

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• When you finally realize what you don’t want in a relationship that’s better than not knowing.
• Sometimes we know what we want but aren’t too clear on exactly what that may be.
• For some strange reason most people specifically females get caught up in what I call fairytale love.
• My opinion, most folks get married for financial gain and great sex over love. This is not the case with every situation.
• When someone tells you that they don’t love you; believe them.
• If someone tells you that they love you; tell them to show you as well.
• The worst part is you not knowing if the other person truly loves you or if they are with you because you have “benefits”. People are very good at faking it until they make it.
• Being afraid to give your heart to someone is not the way anyone should live but being cautious is very necessary.
• Having a history with someone means nothing if that history is full of deceit, pain and misery.
• Don’t ever believe that love is supposed to hurt; if it does you are forcing something that is not meant to be.
• It’s not fair but who said life was? You may totally love someone with all your heart and they may just “like” you.

Are You Damaged Goods?

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Never blame anyone for your unhappiness. People only do what you “allow” them to do. Take responsibility for the role you play in any relationship. The longer you stay in an unhealthy relationship the less chance you have of EVER having a healthy relationship with anyone.

You will continue to have flash backs and blame everyone that comes into your life for something that you allowed another person to do to you.

We all have a threshold when it comes to your level of tolerance but you have to know what that threshold is.

Never blame anyone for your unhappiness; I am certain you know where the door is.

Straight from The Heart, Patrice ❤