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It seems easier said than done but you must not let the mishaps of life keep you down.

It is normal to feel a certain kind of way when someone does something to you the first time that you have no control over. But when you keep allowing people to keep doing the same things to you that hurt or makes you angry you can’t blame anyone but yourself.

People will do only what you “continue” to allow them to do. People “show” you how they really feel about you although their words say the exact opposite. Pay attention to actions more than the lies they tell you to keep you on a string.

Some folks really believe that they want to be with you because they speak it but they don’t show it. Don’t waste your life with someone that disrespects you when there is someone out there that will love you like you deserve to be loved. It is far better to be alone (single) than with a person that hurts you and breaks your heart everyday.

Random Thoughts #2

• When you finally realize what you don’t want in a relationship that’s better than not knowing.
• Sometimes we know what we want but aren’t too clear on exactly what that may be.
• For some strange reason most people specifically females get caught up in what I call fairytale love.
• My opinion, most folks get married for financial gain and great sex over love. This is not the case with every situation.
• When someone tells you that they don’t love you; believe them.
• If someone tells you that they love you; tell them to show you as well.
• The worst part is you not knowing if the other person truly loves you or if they are with you because you have “benefits”. People are very good at faking it until they make it.
• Being afraid to give your heart to someone is not the way anyone should live but being cautious is very necessary.
• Having a history with someone means nothing if that history is full of deceit, pain and misery.
• Don’t ever believe that love is supposed to hurt; if it does you are forcing something that is not meant to be.
• It’s not fair but who said life was? You may totally love someone with all your heart and they may just “like” you.

Are You Damaged Goods?

Never blame anyone for your unhappiness. People only do what you “allow” them to do. Take responsibility for the role you play in any relationship. The longer you stay in an unhealthy relationship the less chance you have of EVER having a healthy relationship with anyone.

You will continue to have flash backs and blame everyone that comes into your life for something that you allowed another person to do to you.

We all have a threshold when it comes to your level of tolerance but you have to know what that threshold is.

Never blame anyone for your unhappiness; I am certain you know where the door is.

Straight from The Heart, Patrice ❤

1 Million Thoughts…

Today my mind was all over the place. It’s like my life flashed before me!

I have never had so many thoughts rush through my mind at once in my entire life. If I knew any better those thoughts would lead me to believe that I may die any day now.

Honestly, it feels like there is a race against time for me and there is no more time to waste to not  do whatever it is that will allow me to enjoy my life…there isn’t another moment to spare.

That’s exactly what scares me not knowing when my last days here on earth will come to an end…time wasted is not a good way for me to be fulfilled knowing that my life was in vain.

Is there anything wrong with taking responsibility for your own happiness; finally realizing that you can no longer sacrifice your happiness for the sake of others every waking hour?

My soul is drained; my eyes have shed enough tears now it’s time to enjoy me. Somehow it feels like I’ve lost myself and if I don’t take time for me, love myself more and live with no regrets; I surely will die.

I will be here physically but not mentally…

 

Love or Great Buddies?

No matter how much we try there will never be a guarantee that we will find true love.
We sort of “settle” for the closest thing to true love barely making it near enough to call it “LOVE”.
I like you a whole lot bunch is what we confuse as love when maybe we are just great buddies?
Most importantly, we must never forget that when you truly love a person you would never hurt them no excuses, never saying, “I really didn’t mean it”; you just don’t hurt the people you love period.

Butterflies and I only have eyes for you is a bunch of crap; besides I feel that way about my car and a few pair of my favorite shoes.
I am just saying; lots of times it isn’t really love; it’s just a certain someone that is new and interesting in your life at the moment.
Love is when you can’t see living life without that person. I am not saying kill yourself if they dump you!

After 90-days of seeing the same person and those butterflies are still hanging around that’s a pretty good indication that you are getting somewhere. The catch is communicating to find out if you both are on the same page looking for the same thing or you will be devastated feeling rather silly only to find out you are just something to do; “literally”.
Honestly, sparks will fly and you will communicate nonverbally like you are Martians from out of space when you meet the love of your life… just my humble opinion folks! You learn this person like the back of your hand and know their every thought…it will blow your mind!

They will be like a missing limb when they aren’t around you…The craziest part is you will think of them every second of the day. Thoughts of them will follow or precede all your other thoughts to the point you will start praying to God to get them off of your mind just for a minute. Its’ nice to think of people but not that darn much but that is what TRUE love does to you.
Love is when your mind and your heart are in sync with a person and you aren’t having major debate about how you feel towards that person. It will all make total sense and feel totally right.
There will be no reservations…

Boxing Ring Love…is so not cool…

Sometimes we experience situations in life that will make us question our self-worth if you can step outside of yourself for a moment to actually realize it.
We claim to respect and love ourselves but we allow others to throw us out like Monday’s trash or flatten us like a steam roller; then have the nerve to profess our love to them after being thrown under bus right before they rip your heart out of your chest.

I wonder if we really like to feel pain; otherwise why wouldn’t be just tell the loser to get lost? The first lie, the first cry from being hurt beyond repair should be lesson enough but we keep enduring it for days that turn into months and one day it’s years!
You become so mentally and emotionally worn out that you will no longer be any good for the next person if you don’t give yourself time to heal and focus on loving and respecting yourself FIRST.

It may sound corny when your hear folks say “love yourself first” but that’s a FACT!
How can you allow someone to mistreat you and give them your heart? I am sure there are many reasons you would give but none that would make any logical sense. She/he used to be so nice or we have a history together is surely what they say most of the time.

History means nothing if he beats on you…History means nothing if she cheats on you. What they used to do and used to be like means zero what matters is how they are presently treating you.
Never use kids as an excuse to stay in an unhealthy relationship because when you think you are doing the kids a favor you are doing them a disservice. Kids are smart and they can sense when their parents aren’t happy and they talk about it in their adult life too.

Trying to love someone that actually hates themselves is a never ending battle you don’t want to start. Now just imagine two people getting together and they have no self-love…that is a huge disaster waiting to happen unless they are open to change and willing to love and accept being loved in return.
When its’ all said and done every experience is a lesson so you aren’t dumb because you fell once or twice for the wrong person but if you repeat the same behavior than you should question yourself.

Make sure you are where you need to be mentally and emotionally before you drag someone into your life…

But he Told me He Loved ME?

Dedicated to a young lady that I have been communicating with via email. I hope this helps you a little to understand what you are going through…and know that you are NOT alone!

As days go by thoughts of you diminish. In my mind you are no longer a dream I once desired…As a matter of fact you never were what I thought you were.
The fairytale love does exist but not with you and there is nothing I can do to change your heart.

Time heals all pain is truly something I believe…but the first thing you must do is leave…in order to start the healing process…It’s amazing how much success and happiness comes into your life when you remove yourself from a bad situation and stop wishing for something in that person you never had….just be glad that you have the guts to walk away especially when there was nothing else to talk about…

You’ve been there before over and over and nothing has changed…It’s like sitting at a stop light and it never turns green…no progress in your personal life or love life is a waste of your time with someone who is determined to make your life miserable.

They will even try and make you believe that you are the problem when their behavior clearly dictates otherwise.
Justification for hurting you is never acceptable so never ACCEPT excuses from anyone for treating you badly.
I understand that some folks are hurt beyond repair although they tell you that they are happy they really aren’t…Happy people don’t hurt people period!
Love is supposed to make you feel like you have a runner’s high not like you just got hit by a bus!

If you cry tears of sorrow more than tears of joy something just ain’t right…No relationship is perfect but this does not mean that you allow someone to use you as a human punching bag or mentally toy with your emotions.
“I love you” means nothing if you can’t show ME!