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1 Million Thoughts…

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Today my mind was all over the place. It’s like my life flashed before me!

I have never had so many thoughts rush through my mind at once in my entire life. If I knew any better those thoughts would lead me to believe that I may die any day now.

Honestly, it feels like there is a race against time for me and there is no more time to waste to not  do whatever it is that will allow me to enjoy my life…there isn’t another moment to spare.

That’s exactly what scares me not knowing when my last days here on earth will come to an end…time wasted is not a good way for me to be fulfilled knowing that my life was in vain.

Is there anything wrong with taking responsibility for your own happiness; finally realizing that you can no longer sacrifice your happiness for the sake of others every waking hour?

My soul is drained; my eyes have shed enough tears now it’s time to enjoy me. Somehow it feels like I’ve lost myself and if I don’t take time for me, love myself more and live with no regrets; I surely will die.

I will be here physically but not mentally…

 

Love or Great Buddies?

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No matter how much we try there will never be a guarantee that we will find true love.
We sort of “settle” for the closest thing to true love barely making it near enough to call it “LOVE”.
I like you a whole lot bunch is what we confuse as love when maybe we are just great buddies?
Most importantly, we must never forget that when you truly love a person you would never hurt them no excuses, never saying, “I really didn’t mean it”; you just don’t hurt the people you love period.

Butterflies and I only have eyes for you is a bunch of crap; besides I feel that way about my car and a few pair of my favorite shoes.
I am just saying; lots of times it isn’t really love; it’s just a certain someone that is new and interesting in your life at the moment.
Love is when you can’t see living life without that person. I am not saying kill yourself if they dump you!

After 90-days of seeing the same person and those butterflies are still hanging around that’s a pretty good indication that you are getting somewhere. The catch is communicating to find out if you both are on the same page looking for the same thing or you will be devastated feeling rather silly only to find out you are just something to do; “literally”.
Honestly, sparks will fly and you will communicate nonverbally like you are Martians from out of space when you meet the love of your life… just my humble opinion folks! You learn this person like the back of your hand and know their every thought…it will blow your mind!

They will be like a missing limb when they aren’t around you…The craziest part is you will think of them every second of the day. Thoughts of them will follow or precede all your other thoughts to the point you will start praying to God to get them off of your mind just for a minute. Its’ nice to think of people but not that darn much but that is what TRUE love does to you.
Love is when your mind and your heart are in sync with a person and you aren’t having major debate about how you feel towards that person. It will all make total sense and feel totally right.
There will be no reservations…

Boxing Ring Love…is so not cool…

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Sometimes we experience situations in life that will make us question our self-worth if you can step outside of yourself for a moment to actually realize it.
We claim to respect and love ourselves but we allow others to throw us out like Monday’s trash or flatten us like a steam roller; then have the nerve to profess our love to them after being thrown under bus right before they rip your heart out of your chest.

I wonder if we really like to feel pain; otherwise why wouldn’t be just tell the loser to get lost? The first lie, the first cry from being hurt beyond repair should be lesson enough but we keep enduring it for days that turn into months and one day it’s years!
You become so mentally and emotionally worn out that you will no longer be any good for the next person if you don’t give yourself time to heal and focus on loving and respecting yourself FIRST.

It may sound corny when your hear folks say “love yourself first” but that’s a FACT!
How can you allow someone to mistreat you and give them your heart? I am sure there are many reasons you would give but none that would make any logical sense. She/he used to be so nice or we have a history together is surely what they say most of the time.

History means nothing if he beats on you…History means nothing if she cheats on you. What they used to do and used to be like means zero what matters is how they are presently treating you.
Never use kids as an excuse to stay in an unhealthy relationship because when you think you are doing the kids a favor you are doing them a disservice. Kids are smart and they can sense when their parents aren’t happy and they talk about it in their adult life too.

Trying to love someone that actually hates themselves is a never ending battle you don’t want to start. Now just imagine two people getting together and they have no self-love…that is a huge disaster waiting to happen unless they are open to change and willing to love and accept being loved in return.
When its’ all said and done every experience is a lesson so you aren’t dumb because you fell once or twice for the wrong person but if you repeat the same behavior than you should question yourself.

Make sure you are where you need to be mentally and emotionally before you drag someone into your life…

But he Told me He Loved ME?

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Dedicated to a young lady that I have been communicating with via email. I hope this helps you a little to understand what you are going through…and know that you are NOT alone!

As days go by thoughts of you diminish. In my mind you are no longer a dream I once desired…As a matter of fact you never were what I thought you were.
The fairytale love does exist but not with you and there is nothing I can do to change your heart.

Time heals all pain is truly something I believe…but the first thing you must do is leave…in order to start the healing process…It’s amazing how much success and happiness comes into your life when you remove yourself from a bad situation and stop wishing for something in that person you never had….just be glad that you have the guts to walk away especially when there was nothing else to talk about…

You’ve been there before over and over and nothing has changed…It’s like sitting at a stop light and it never turns green…no progress in your personal life or love life is a waste of your time with someone who is determined to make your life miserable.

They will even try and make you believe that you are the problem when their behavior clearly dictates otherwise.
Justification for hurting you is never acceptable so never ACCEPT excuses from anyone for treating you badly.
I understand that some folks are hurt beyond repair although they tell you that they are happy they really aren’t…Happy people don’t hurt people period!
Love is supposed to make you feel like you have a runner’s high not like you just got hit by a bus!

If you cry tears of sorrow more than tears of joy something just ain’t right…No relationship is perfect but this does not mean that you allow someone to use you as a human punching bag or mentally toy with your emotions.
“I love you” means nothing if you can’t show ME!

Don’t Mistake Love for Abuse…

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My thoughts based on my personal continuous journey on trying to learn to love myself unconditionally; understanding that the act itself does not make me “selfish” but demands in a subtle way for others to love and respect me.
It amazes me how we actually believe that we are wise when we make all the wrong decisions.
The areas in life we need to be the strongest in we are so weak that it almost destroys us. What makes it worse is we know exactly what the future has in store for most situations; yet and still; we allow ourselves to get sucked in.
Eyes wide open; we dive head first letting our emotions and hormones take front seat.
Listen to your inner voice that is there to save your life! Never ignore your gut. If it hurts it’s not love, if you are sad most of the time you are forcing something that is not meant to be.
You can’t be the only one who compromises alone with no reciprocation from another. You will risk being drained mentally and spiritually beyond repair becoming biter; holding an ugly grudge against all that truly want to love you unconditionally with no strings attached.
Never allow a human being to ruin the core of who you are and suck you dry having you afraid to love again. Be wiser in who you decide to love.
Love only those who are “worthy”, who respect you; who make time for you; who make you feel like you are the only one in their life when you know that is far from the truth when they may have kids.
People who make excuses for not treating you like a “human being” should be removed from your life permanently. It is easy to do once you decide to love yourself unconditionally. When you get hurt enough you will wake up and if you don’t; you will have a miserable loveless life searching for love in all the wrong places. Love starts from within.
If you don’t respect and love yourself unconditionally, why should you expect another human being to do the same?

Not everyone deserves your love…

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You know when you meet someone and after the first couple of dates if they are someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Sounds crazy but its true unless you are more focused on being a man or woman of the world and love doesn’t matter to you.

It is very possible to fall in love with someone within an hour of meeting them.
More realistic to say it takes months or years for love to de…velop but if your heart feels it you can’t deny it no matter how hard you try to fight it.

Your spirit longs to be with them and you are compatible in every way becoming one mentally and sexually.

You make each other laugh and when you touch it’s electrifying and they become a force in your life that you need like the air you breathe. This is dangerous if the other person doesn’t feel the same about you!

Never settle when you know you are a diamond.
Even if it hurts sometimes you have to let go to save yourself the intense pain you will experience if you prolong the inevitable.

Your heart and your emotions (lust) can take control of your ability to make a rational decision that can lead to a road of emotional destruction.

Save yourself the agony and pain for something that is temporary for pain that is long term. The sooner you remove yourself from a going to nowhere situation the faster your heart will heal.

Love Should Not Hurt…

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If a relationship is painful and you have to constantly struggle with keeping it alive then you are wasting not only your time but theirs as well.

I never understood why people feel like they have to cry, fight, scream and hurt in order to have a meaningful relationship. I often hear people say, “We have a history” ok, that’s great but how good is that history?

If they don’t hit you, call you dreadful names or act like a jealous manic they don’t care?

Far from the truth, it’s the exact opposite. People who love you will set you free because they realize you are not property and will respect your decision to end the unhealthy relationship.

It is impossible to not have disagreements and become angry with your partner. However, the way you resolve your issues is when the real test comes into play. Love shouldn’t hurt and it surly should not drain your spirit.

Love is holding your best friend’s hand waking up every morning to warm smiles thinking of how you can make each other happier. Love is a 50/50 spilt and if you aren’t there in the beginning work towards it. You need someone that will at the minimum meet you half way. There should never be only person putting in all the work while building a relationship.

Love is respect, loyalty and admiration as well as humbling in a sense that it has become a rarity these days.

Love should be easy and sweet taking you to a place that is pure euphoria detaching you from reality so much that you have to pull each other back.

Love does not ask questions it just exists and blossoms each day with a foundation that no man can destroy.

So…You Say You’re Not Selfish?

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We never want to admit it but we all are selfish in many ways. Whenever someone shouts “YOU ARE SELFISH” the first thing we say is “No, I am not look at all that I have done for you?” Really, you keeping a tally on what you have done?

I look at being selfish as our survival instinct kicking in. Naturally, there are some who are over the top with squeezing their pennies until they scream or just down right never wanting to give love but always willing to receive love.

Being selfish isn’t always a bad trait when you have so many people always wanting to take but never giving. If you allow people to continually take what will you have left?

You may be thinking what are they taking? When people take from you it isn’t necessarily material things such has money it can be your self-respect, pride (sin), your dignity or just your overall self-confidence of being who you are.

If you allow it, people will suck you dry! It is your responsibility to determine how much you will allow someone to use you and know when to say enough is enough.

Someone has to start out showing that they are willing to be used in the beginning for whatever personal gain they are expecting to receive whether it is a blessing or for sexual gratification.

People do things for the most part because they are “expecting” something in return; whether it’s a few dollars in their pocket or just to put a smile on someone’s face.

We all are selfish no matter the intensity of our selfishness it’s just a part of who we are.

Dating Games

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When you are dating someone and you somehow come up with this verbal contract that you will not do this or that, unfortunately, that will not hold up in a court of law.

I am trying to figure out why people think they have the right to “own” you in a sense but never fully commit by either proposing or actually marrying you. I’ve heard many times that in order for you to move on to the next level you have to start somewhere. That’s fair, however; do you really know for certain the other party is on the same page as you are? We all know marriage is no guarantee of commitment these days!

Are they saying or doing “just enough” to appease you? Can I get a freaking promise ring or something?

They know exactly what to do to keep you dangling and your feelings grow deeper for them never knowing they are not really that into you. The sex is good they have your mind, have you coming back every time.

In reality, you are single and should be free to do what you please within reason and remaining as respectful as possible. Instead, we give our all when in fact the other party has no intention of ever fully committing which actually sucks when you think about it.

People will lie just to have two pieces of pie. They want to gamble and string you along until they decide who they want to settle down with if they ever do. You are either in this or not there is no in-between life is too short to play games.

Does Love Expire?

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We all have different thresholds when it comes to how much we will endure.
If the wind blows some of us in the wrong direction we give up. Fighting for love just doesn’t seem advantageous to me or maybe I am just lazy. Love to me should come easy, flow with no restrictions and happen when you least expect it never actually planning it.

The first time a man tells me that I must not really love him because I won’t argue will make me run for the hills. You have got to be freaking kidding me? Do you think I want to live my life arguing with anyone? That’s a double negative dude and you can keep it moving bye- bye. Anything worth having is worth fighting for when it comes to relationships, no way! You are either in this or not buddy take your pick because I am not fighting or forcing anyone to be with me.

Some will fight through quicksand for years until they finally decide they have had enough. I am lover not a fighter but have been known to stick around way too longer than I should for the sake of finding love. After a while, I begin to feel like a used sucker providing perks that only a husband should be privy to.

Love expires no matter what they say about it being forever. There is indeed a thin line between love and hate as well. When people play games with your emotions it can be devastating especially when the entire relationship was never real.

How can someone FAKE a relationship that last for years? I have no idea but it has been done even when it comes to marriages. My honest opinion would be it’s nobody’s fault but my own if I don’t realize he’s a phony when the writing is almost always on the wall.

We not only know when someone is taking us seriously we can feel it but instead we choose to hope that one day their feeling will change. Lust will get you caught up every time.

Never ignore your instinct or the little feeling you get when things are not right it’s how you protect your heart. The one thing that scares me the most is that I actually may enjoy being single for the rest of my life if that means peace of mind is the prize.